(Closed) Invitation Only!!!!! grr.

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh man I think everyone on here, with the exception of those people having extremely small weddings, has AT LEAST one of these. I have, um, I don’t know – at least 20 people that I find useless but I “have to” invite. It’s the downside of my parents paying. Try to just think about the fact that you can fairly easily ignore her the day of your wedding. And have someone lock the doors before the ceremony begins if that’s an option at your ceremony location. If she can’t arrive on time then it’s her problem.

Post # 4
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah, I abosolutely am inviting people out of obligation who I would rather not be present at all that day. Like all the kids! I love them, but would prefer the day to be adults only. I would have to invite them even if I was paying for the wedding though, which stinks. Oh, and some of my old childhood friends who I no longer speak to’s parents! If that makes sense gramatically. It’s so strange b/c I know the ex-friends will see my STD and wedding invitation, but it’s for their parents!

Post # 5
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i’d be surprised if someone didn’t have this problem. my aunt, who we’ve had many issues with for a while, didn’t come to my engagement party because she told me my uncle was working (which was a lie, and either way she could have come without him). i’m so pissed! we’re having 30 people at our ceremony, which means i get 15 seats and my fi gets 15, and i have to waste 2 on her and my uncle. i know they don’t want to be there, and i don’t want them there. it’s all obligation.

Post # 6
3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with @artbee.  I think at least someone on anyone’s guest list will fall under the obligation category. 

Post # 8
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

sigh, yes. i feel like it almost goes along hand in hand with a wedding. your day will be so great, though, you won’t be thinking about her at all!

Post # 9
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m sure i’ll have one or two but we purposely are having a small wedding so that we can limit all of that. No kids, co-workers or ppl we really can’t stand 🙂

Post # 10
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Yes, yes and yes!!! If it was just up to us, it would have been only our parents, his sister, our grandmothers, and some very close friends… There were a LOT of people that we didn’t really want that we HAD to invite, or else, we would’ve never heard the end of it… so we invited everybody… but we are going to the Dominican, so all the people that we do not feel close to are not showing up anyway. This was one of our main reasons for going the Destination Wedding route. We’re having the small wedding of our dreams without having to explain “why” people weren’t invited – they were. 🙂


Post # 11
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yes I had to invite a few people I didn’t want to just because they had heard so much about my wedding planning and I pretty much knew that they assumed they would be invited.

I was even more mad when during my reception these people that I didn’t care about took me away from others for about 15 minutes and had awkward conversation with me.  I see these people a lot, I didn’t care to see them that much on my wedding day, I would have rather spoken with family during that time whom I only see once a year if I’m lucky.  Plus it was weird because in my group photo these people are right up in the front.  I’m not that close to them!  Why did you have to stand up in the front and push my family members to the back of the photo?  Ugh!

Post # 12
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ugh! Yes…I’ve said from the start no kids.  One of FMIL’s must invitees has a kid that apparently we have to invite as well.  How bad will that look to let one kid in and no others?!  Worst part is she’s not a certain age where it would be acceptable to say like, no children under 16 or something like that…I mentioned something to Fiance but he just said we have to invite her.  

Post # 13
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i have a guy that i work with and we are sort of friends i guess….but he completely invited himself!  he asks about the wedding all the time and talks about going and i dont even want him there because hes kind of a weirdo lol.

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