(Closed) Invitation Problem

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
104 posts
Blushing bee

Oh dear… that is a problem.

Do you know how many people were actually invited? If you can’t guess at the number your bridal party accidentally invited, you could call up whoever addressed the invitations and ask them to run you through the guestlist. Then you will have an idea if it is only children that would make your guestlist run over or if they invited extra adults as well.

Can you host a few extras above the sixty? Or is that a venue or cost cutoff for you?

Unpleasant though it is, I think if you will not allow children, you should immediately call up all the people with children who were accidentally invited. The parents would not know you didn’t do the mailing yourself; from your guests’ point of view, you have invited them and their two or three children. By the time you receive their RSVP card back with a yes response a few days before your RSVP deadline, they might already have booked off work and made travel plans to DC with their children in tow.

I think the ideal thing etiquette-wise would be to host everyone who rsvp’s to your invitation with a yes– and never let them know their invite was accidental– but if that’s not possible, you must call them up quickly and explain. Try not to place too much blame on the ones who did try to help you by sending the invites. Just apologize profusely.
It might cause hurt feelings to uninvite people. It will cause even more if you uninvite them after they have decided to come!

If you want something done right… I’d suggest you do the calling yourself instead of leaving it to the bridal party.  Good luck!

The topic ‘Invitation Problem’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors