(Closed) Invitation Protocol

posted 5 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should I do handwritten or labeled addresses
    Handwritten : (20 votes)
    65 %
    Labels : (11 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Etiquette-wise, yes, it is wrong to do labels.

    I personally believe that addresses should be handwritten and that it’s okay if they don’t look perfect, as long as the post office can read them and they aren’t ridiculously sloppy. I would definitely kind of assume that the wedding was not going to be a nice affair if I got an invitation that was preprinted for the address. I’d also think, what, she couldn’t take a few hours to address these personally? We are all strapped for time, but to me, it’s important to take the time. One of my friends had a huge wedding and hand write the address but didn’t do it all fancy like, but fun instead (which was appropriate for her wedding). I’ve attached a photo below. Since it’s not my address anymore, I don’t care about the privacy.

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    Guess it depends on the formality of your invitations.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @FutureMrsDavis10132012:  I printed labels… unless you are having a grand etiquette driven wedding, I doubt anyone will care.  Another option is to print lightly on the envelopes and write over them.  Use the computer font as a template for your own hand writting.  

    Post # 6
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think that if you can print labels that look fancier than your handwriting, then do it. I know my handwriting is not very nice, and would probably make an invitation look cheaper than a nice label. Note that it needs to be NICE, though–none of that Microsoft Word, TNR mess. Pick a readable, attractive font and do some work to make the address look good. It may be better to print directly on the envelope rather than make a label.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We typed them out and printed them individually straight on to each envelope. My handwriting isn’t nice enough and while FI’s mom has wonderful calligraphy skills she is a principal at a school and our invites needed to be sent out right at the end of her school year when she was reviewing report cards so she was too busy. Instead of opting for the label we did it this way and they turned out gorgeous. I chose a font that resembled calligraphy.

    I don’t think in ANY way it makes it less formal, if anything it was more formal because it looked pro. I don’t want sloppy handwriting ruining my nice invitations. It took a super long time, a few nights of my FI and I sitting on the floor in our office beside our printer with some coffee but I’m very happy with the outcome.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I was planning on printing them on the envelope.. but ended up writing them out. I even used cursive. It really wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. 

    EDIT: omg 400 invites! you’re having a huge wedding!!!!!! But you could easily split it up over 4 days and do 100 a day. 

    Post # 9
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @mrsSonthebeach:  Etiquette-wise, yes, it is wrong to do labels.

    Why?

    Like pps have said, my handwriting sucks. It looks okay with a sharpie, but otherwise…bleh. It’s messy. FSMIL offered to help me address them, since she has amazing handwriting, so I might just take her up on that. We had a discussion last night on “Who really cares what the envelope looks like?” 

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m doing labels!  If you have access to a color printer, you can design something really classy.  I don’t know what paper you’d use for it, but I thought wrap around labels like these are really clever. There are a ton of them on etsy you could get ideas from.DIY Printable Tree Leaves Wrap Around Address Label

    DIY Printable Tree Leaves Wrap Around Address Label

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @vorpalette:  Because address labels are for business communication, not personal communication. A wedding invitation is supposed to be a peronsla correspondance and should therefore be a time investment and should be personal. There is nothing personal about an address label. I’m in no way trying to dictate that OP must handwrite, but I do think it’s more polite to and it is the etiquette-conscious way to go. As Martha notes, computer printing directly onto envelopes is becoming more popular and is a good compromise if you really have such awful handwritting.

    From Martha:

    The address on a wedding invitation should be handwritten; printed labels are not appropriate (though calligraphy done by computer directly on the envelope is gaining popularity and acceptability).

    And from weddingchannel etiquette:

    Affixing labels to your wedding invitation envelops makes them appear far less personal than they should be. Even if you are inviting many guests to the wedding, hand-address the invitation or, budget permitting, hire a calligrapher to handle the project. If you are worried about not being able to complete a large number of invitations, plan to order them as early as you can so you’ll have enough time to finish them.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @vorpalette:  Also, as for “who really cares” here are my thoughts.

    Your invitation is the number 1 way you communicate the your guests the formality and tone of your wedding. The more informal your invitation, the more informal guests will assume your wedding is. This translates into less concern on the guest’s part about responding appropriately, sending an appropriate gift, dressing appropriately, etc. Labels indicate, whether this is the case or not, that you couldn’t be troubled to take the time to hand address the invitation, to write by hand 3-4 lines of text. 

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I feel like this is some sort of conspiracy…  I wonder if there is a secret calligrapher’s union trying to inculcate us.  I personally associate handwritten addresses with the hastily written postcards from my dentist and with the sketchy christmas card I get from my realtor and the therapist I haven’t seen for 8 years.  Most of my “personal correspondence” is via text or email, so actually printing is more personal to me!

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @FutureMrsDavis10132012:  You can always just use a fancy font for the labels!!!  I think that would be nice  🙂

    Post # 15
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @FutureMrsDavis10132012:  And, just thought of this, you can use clear labels instead of the white ones…

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I printed mine directly onto the envelope. They haven’t gone out yet, but I’ve received very positive feedback. I used one of the fonts that we used inside the invitation, and it looks very similar to nice cursive handwriting.

    With working 12+ hour days and 6 other weddings in the next 4 months, I don’t have any spare time and have many projects to finish so this was the best way to go for us.

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