(Closed) Invitation question

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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penguinbride89 :  Could you just address them to Mr & Mrs Smith? That’s what we’ve done.

We also put a line on our invitations to write the people’s names on (don’t know if it is too late for that?)

I think writing “and family” is fine – my parents received a lot of invites like that when I still lived at home.

I’ve done Calligraphy on all of mine because I can, but Fiance reckons it is a total waste of time because nobody looks at the envelopes lol he’s probably right 🙂

xx

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I don’t care about a lot of etiquette, so this is just my opinion. I printed the names directly on the envelopes to make sure that I could put full names on there, but it wasn’t specifically for etiquette’s sake. The reason to spell out everyone’s names IMO is mostly for clarity and to discourage uninvited +1s. Similarly, while I’ve never seen a married couple’s names split on different lines, but I have trouble imagining it being insulting. And I wouldn’t be offended if my invitation said ‘and family’. Definitely better than the font being too small to read! However, it leaves more ambiguity so there’s more chance you will receive phone calls asking for clarification on exactly who is invited.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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penguinbride89 :  For families I would just write “The Smith Family” on the envelope (that’s what I did) and for married couples/no children I wrote “Mr & Mrs Smith”, for couples being invited together with different last names I wrote “Jane Smith & John White” (and excluded the Mr/Ms/Mrs)

ETA: I didn’t realize that the names being on different lines was offensive? My maiden name was a very long one and I wouldn’t have ever blinked an eye that people weren’t ablt to include mine and husband’s name on the same line. Ialso used the same addressing method (using labels) and whenever names were too long to stay on one line, I just moved one of the names down to the second line.

I don’t know what brand of labels you are using but I bought Avery labels and actually used their website as opposed to Word to print them (avery.com/print) it was much easier that way.

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Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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penguinbride89 :  Ok for families with adult children that still live at home I sent a separate invite so, I would send one to the parents: Mr & Mrs. Smith and then one to the adult child “Mr. John Smith & Guest”.

If the families had the same name and lived in the same town but in a different address than I trust the post office to do their job and deliver the proper invite to the proer household.

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