Post # 1
I am new here and have questions about invitation ettiquette…
Is it appropriate to address invitations as “John and Jane Smith”? I don’t like the whole “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” idea. Also, do I really need an outer and inner envelope(our wedding is not very formal and pretty modern)?
Post # 3
My personal opinion is do whatever you feel like! It’s probably not “proper” to do it the eway you suggested, but does it really matter? Especially for a less formal wedding. We’re doing ours: The Smiths. With a belly band or something like that that says which Smiths are invited. ie. John and Jane.
I really can’t imagine people getting the invitation and thinking one way or another about how it’s addressed. Everyone that’s invited to ours knows that we’re pretty low key and casual. It will seem appropriate.
That’s my two cents…Do what you think feels right! 🙂
Post # 4
Oh, and as for the double envelope question. We’re also not doing it. We’re going to use that belly band (or string or something) to keep everything together. Less paper!
Post # 5
Only the aged and the rigid (and maybe not all of them) will take issue with it. I’m not going super formal on hours. Come on, it’s a wedding with 40 people tops!
Post # 6
I second the belly band instead of inner envelope thing. The outer/inner envelope originated (at least according to random internet searches I did a few months ago) back in the day when invitations were hand delivered by servants. The outer envelope was only to direct the servent where to take the invitation, and would get smudged and dirty as he carried it through the streets. When the recipient’s butler got the invitation, he’d throw away the outer envelope and present the pretty clean inner envelope to the guests. Since our guests will all be opening the outer envelope themselves (good butlers being so hard to find these days), we didn’t see any reason to put in an inner envelope, and personally, I prefer the look of a belly band anyway.