(Closed) Invitation questions…PLEASE HELP!!!

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

1-Can I invite a single person and not put “and guest” on the invitation without being tacky? Yes, as long as they aren’t in a long term relationship; ie., engaged or living with.

2-How do I invite relatives, without their grown “children” (well in their 30’s…) Just address the invite to the relatives; you can put something like: “We have reserved X number of seats in you honour” on the invitation.

3-Should I take my mom up on her offer for her to pay for her “table” of guests?!? Yes, if you don’t have room in your budget, accept her offer. She would not have offered if she had a problem with doing it.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

You are very welcome.

Just do the singles the same way: “We have reserved 1 seat in your honour”.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In the same fashion as the lovely PP,

 

1-Can I invite a single person and not put “and guest” on the invitation without being tacky?

Of course! But if they are married, its very taboo.  We’re doing this for a few of our guests.  On the RSVP card, we’re putting “__# of seats have been reserved in your honor”

2-How do I invite relatives, without their grown “children” (well in their 30’s…)

See above RSVP wording.  Also, on the envelope only put names of those you’re inviting.  And as etiquette goes, any person over the age of 18 needs their own invite, so you don’t need to worry about that =)

3-Should I take my mom up on her offer for her to pay for her “table” of guests?!?

If you’re worried about not being able to pay for it!  But make sure she knows its not just the food plates she needs to pay for.  Each guest costs so much more than just a plate of food!  There’s the centerpiece for the table, the plates, the flatware, the glasses, the food, the drink cost, and if you’re like us: the cost for the candy buffet per person (we’re spending $300 for 100 people, so $3 pp), favors, etc.  The list could go on and on.  Just make sure you’re not stuck with the excess costs for them!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

1-Can I invite a single person and not put “and guest” on the invitation without being tacky?

IMO, no.  Do other people do it? Yes.  Technically, I think it is ok to not invite a +1 (in terms of etiquette).

2-How do I invite relatives, without their grown “children” (well in their 30’s…)

Address the envelopes to only the people you want.  Do not put the children’s names on the invitation/envelope.

3-Should I take my mom up on her offer for her to pay for her “table” of guests?!?

Depends on your situation.  If you’re paying for the rest of the wedding and you can afford to pay for “her” guests, I’d pay for them.  If she insists on paying, I’d let her. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think its fine to invite a single person, as long as they know more people at the wedding!  But if they are not familiar with others at the wedding, then they really need a +1.  I know I personally wouldn’t goto a wedding that I didn’t know anyone other than B&G if I didn’t have a +1

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1989

For my RSVP cards I’m writing

___ Attending

Please reserve ____ out of # seat(s).

___ Regretfully decline.

Our cutoff for plus-ones is engaged, married, or living together.  Fiance and I are speaking to our parents and grandparents to make sure that if they are asked the inevitable “Do you think they would mind I brought so-and-so,” everyone knows to say no and we’re all the same page (not hard because we all get along fabulously). 

The exception will be my mom’s friend who is probably going to serve as DOC to help my mom out (I refuse to do anything day of) so we will let her bring her Boyfriend or Best Friend if she wants.

We are also doing an A and B list to be able to invite as many people as possible.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

There isn’t one answer to this – I think you should go with what feels right. Will the single guests feel comfortable attending alone? Are you close to these other cousins? Do you feel okay with accepting your mom’s offer for her to pay for her guests? If the answer to the last one is yes, you are good to go.

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