(Closed) Invitation Reciprocity?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1565 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think that you are obligated to invite these girls by etiquette. Should you invite them anyway? I think it depends on your budget and guest list constraints. And also on whether you’re a “the more, the merrier” type of bride or whether you’re trying to keep the day small and intimate. Either way, I don’t think you can go wrong. 

Post # 4
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Only invite them if you truly want them there, not out of obligation.  There was a couple who invited us to their wedding, very first wedding Fiance and I attended together,  but we didn’t reciprocate because we don’t stay in touch with them and we had space issues with our venue.   

Do what works best for you.

Post # 5
118 posts
Blushing bee

If I were in your situation, I would probably invite them, but by no means are you obligated to. 

There are 2 couples on that we haven’t kept in touch with since college, but invited them anyway since they invited us. We have the room and didn’t want to stir up any drama/ill-feelings.

Post # 6
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You are definitely not obligated to invite them. Every wedding has it’s own budget and venue which affects how many guests you can invite. Also many people want small weddings now and only invite their closest friends and family. I doubt they would be offended.

Post # 7
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think you are obligated to invite them at all.  You can only invite as many people as you can afford.  If they don’t make the cut, then that’s OK.  But, I will say that if I was one of these girls my feelings would probably be a little hurt only because you are obviously important to them (unless they are having huge weddings and just inviting everyone they know) and it may hurt to feel like they are not important to you as well.  I think you should do what works for your budget, but just be aware that there may be some hurt feelings.

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