(Closed) Invitation snags!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1696 posts
Bumble bee


Oh my! what a lot of terrible misfortunes all at once. Your insticts are very good: none of these people are going to be thrilled by your wedding right now. First and at once, before you do anything else, write a note of condolence to each of these relatives. Send it off immediately, before you do anything else wedding-related. Compassion needs to come first, and needs to stand alone.

Give your condolence note a chance to arive before you send the invitations. You don’t have to wait too long: it should just be enough to put those three invitations to the bottom of your stack to be addressed.

You are correct, too, to treat your FI’s friend’s estranged wife as a welcome guest in her own right. It’s always proper to pretend (at least) that all your guests are wanted guests, and that none of them are being invited pro-forma or because they’re associated with someone else. Invite her separately, just as you will invite her estranged husband separately.


Post # 4
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Difficult times.. I’d certainly send a condolence letter/card and not send the wedding invite to them for another few weeks after.  Send the remainder of the invites out now though. 

I agree with the above pp, to invite them separately. 

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