Post # 1
We just finalized our STD design last night so we’re working on getting the addresses together.
We have several family members that we are inviting who share the same address. For example, FH’s Aunt and Uncle plus their two adult children who live with them. I’ve always assumed we would address each adult separately for any of the stationary we mail but my Future Mother-In-Law said send one STD to the “family unit” followed by sending a formal invitations to each adult (the aunt/uncle will get one since they’re a pair).
What’s the etiquette for situations like this? I have an adult brother that lives with my folks and I had planned on sending him his own STD & invitation.
Thanks for your help!
Post # 2
You have it right. Save-The-Date Cards are unnecessary but adults should get their own separate invitations or notifications.
Post # 3
Etiquette probably agrees with you, but most of my family agrees with your mother in law. One aunt has 3 adult grandchildren living in her home and said it was wasteful to send 4 invites to one home. I’m planning on doing hers last so if I have extras then I can do one for the adult grandchildren and if not, then they will be on one.
How adult are you really if you’re still living at home? (No offense intended… I lived at home briefly after college, but meant more that age is just a number sometimes and adulthood can also be judged by the degree of independence they exhibit. If they are living at home and dependent on the parents then it does seem reasonable to consider them a family unit for invites.)
Post # 4
I believe traditionally each adult gets their own invite. As far as STD’s, they don’t need to follow etiquette as strictly I believe, as far as what I’ve read anyway. But I think technically each adult should still get their own.
But if I were in your shoes, I’d probably humor your Future Mother-In-Law and do it her way for her side of the family, and do it however you want for your side. It’s just STD’s, I don’t think it’s a big deal to just do it per family unit for her side if that’s what she really wants.
Post # 5
We did what your Future Mother-In-Law is suggesting. We sent our STD’s to each family – The Smith Family – even if there were adult kids living at home (still a few cousins living at home through college). For invites, we’ll give each person over 18 their own invite, regardless of if they still live at home or not.
Post # 6
Apologizes for the delay! But thank you for your insight, bees!
I realize I might have overthought this one, lol. And I think we may end up splitting the difference like some of y’all suggested.