(Closed) Invitation to Couple in serious relationship

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Send them their own invitations. It’s the right thing according to etiquette, and hopefully they will appreciate it.

Post # 4
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would put both of their names (separate lines) on one invitation.

Post # 5
4381 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I’d send it to the main family member’s abode, and address it like this…


Mr./Ms. Relative

Mr./ Ms. Sig. Other

3243 Relative Lane

Family, Virgina 39204




Post # 7
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ditto scissors and jojo: one invite, two names.

Post # 8
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I’d do one invite, two names, like Miss Scissors suggested.

Post # 9
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Yeah…ditto on scissors, jojo and nonimouse. It’s hard enough getting relatives’ addresses, much less their SOs! 

Post # 10
599 posts
Busy bee

Do one invite two names. Otherwise you run the problem of the so’s coming even if they break up. You def dont want that.

Post # 11
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Unless your family is extremely wealthy/proper…. i say to hell with etiquette. Just put both names on one invitation. 

Post # 12
1103 posts
Bumble bee

Agree with starcharades’ reasoning as well as the fact that old fashioned etiquette hasn’t quite caught up with the modern world in some instances, this being one of them. Personally I think it would be ruder to say “and guest” when you KNOW the guest’s name 🙂

Post # 13
3331 posts
Sugar bee

What we did in this case was to send the outer envelope to the family member and then address the inside to the couple together.  So, for example, Mr. John Doe (outside) and John and Jane on the inside.

Just keep in mind that sometimes things happen and people do break up, so you might not want to invite the SO with his/her own invitation.  I know in our case, one of my cousins broke up with his Girlfriend of 3 years right before our wedding and I was glad that I didn’t have her name on the invitation to remind him of that!

Post # 15
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I say just screw etiquette and send them a single invitation to your cousin’s house, with both names on the invitation.  This is what we’re doing for our friends who are in serious relationships.  The idea of sending an individual invite to each person in the couple at their individual addresses doesn’t sit right with me… unless you happen to be very good friends individually with each member of the couple. 

Post # 16
47 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with putting two names, separate lines, on the envelopes. I was a bit bummed when FI’s friends had me down as “guest”, not only on the invite but also on the escort card, despite the fact that the couple knew we have been together for 5+ years at the time of their wedding. It was especially poignant to me b/c we got engaged about 3 weeks prior to their wedding.

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