Post # 1
I am looking for some advice. My friend who gets married in July of next year wants to invite people to the wedding itself which will be in a church at 2pm and then to an evening reception probably about 8pm.
Only close family and friend will go to the afternoon sit down dinner.
I think that is a great idea to control costs but include everyone. Sending people just a evening invite I always think they miss out because they dont share in the ceremony.
What do you think and do you have any advise on how to word the invite?
Post # 3
I might get roasted for this, but here goes.
How about doing one regular wedding ceremony invite for everyone and then just using two different kinds of inserts–one for the full dinner guests and one for the evening reception guests? The evening-only invite isn’t very common in the US (it’s considered rude), but as it’s pretty standard in the UK (FI is British and we’re getting married in the UK), and as Fiance has a zillion local friends who are expecting to be invited to an evening party, it’s what we’re doing. I encountered the same feelings as your friend–didn’t like the idea of people not being included in the ceremony if they wanted to come! We’re doing what I suggested above: same wedding invite for everyone (which includes info about our immediately-following refreshments reception in the church), and then we’re just using different inserts depending on whether the guest is coming to the dinner or the evening ‘do.
Post # 4
I don’t understand why you’d be roasted!
I’m having 34 to the day who’ll get a ‘wedding invitation’ and an additional 34 for the evening reception who’ll receive an ‘evening reception’ invite.The shops in the UK have invites labelled just like that! If ur in Scotland, just send out 2 different types of invites….
Post # 5
@ticatica: She thinks she will be roasted because this is mostly a US website forum, and that would be horrifyingly rude to most people here.
However, I definitely see the utility of it if you have a lot of people who expect to be invited! I think the two different inserts is a good idea – it keeps all the info for the two different reception types separate so nobody is hurt they weren’t invited to the more intimate party.
(those types of invites do not even exist here)