Post # 1
I sent an invitation to my inlaws friends who I’ll call D and G who also have become friends of mine but then my MIL tells me that D’s Mom and Dad who i dont even know are coming too. uhm okay??? I guess i dont really care, but I sort of do because i dont know them. Its kinda like what the heck??!!
I guess i just want to know if anyone has been in this situation and how did you handle it.
Post # 3
My dad and stepmom wanted some of their friends invited…I’ve never met them. Don’t know them. Why they would want to go to someone’s wedding they don’t know I don’t get.
But ultimately my dad and stepmom are paying for the wedding..haha. So I guess it’s just the more the merrier!
Are your parents paying for the wedding? Or are you? I think if you and your FI are totally paying for it you do have some say in the fact you don’t know these people and you are paying to have them there.
Post # 4
well My fiance and I are paying for the ceremony and we’re having a pre wedding BBQ / reception the day before the ceremony at my inlaws my inlaws are paying for the food ect the inlaws are the ones who invited them to go… but to the Ceremony??? why would they want to come to the ceremony if they dont even know me??? my fiance doesnt even know the parents of D but do know D and G
Post # 5
yes, we’ve had a few people want to bring extra guests. my fiance’s aunt asked if she could bring some friends of hers (my fiance knows them, but they’re just acquaintances). my cousin wanted to bring her boyfriend (i know him & he’s a nice guy, but we just can’t include him). and a friend of mine wanted to bring her boyfriend (i didn’t even know she had a boyfriend, lol). she just assumed he could come and added his name her rsvp, which annoyed me.
we told my fiance’s aunt and my cousin, that their guests were welcome to come any time after 8pm for the dance, but we could not accommodate them for the entire reception, and they seemed ok with that.
i (nicely, but firmly) told my friend not to bring her boyfriend at all. like i said, i was annoyed, haha. she was very understanding about it, which surprised me.
my mother in law is upset that we’re not including all the kids on my fiance’s side of the family, but she and my father in law are not contributing anything toward the wedding, so they don’t really get a say. sounds harsh, but it’s so easy for people to say do this and do that, when it’s not their money being spent.