Post # 1
Our invites are the Brides DIY invites from Michael’s. My mom posed an interesting question this weekend: what do you do when you have no inner envelope?
Our outer “envelope” is the back of the invite itself – there’s actually no separate envelope. When it comes to inviting people with a guest, I guess I should just write “Mr. Robert A. Smith and Guest” on the address? Does anyone else have some suggestions or did anyone else not have an inner envelope?
Post # 3
This is the exact invites I just printed up and mailed out for my sister. If the invite was for a couple that they socialized with then I would put Mr – & Ms. -. If it was for a female that they socialized with (w/o a boyfriend) even if she got a plus 1, I addressed the envelope as Ms. -. The same if it was a guy.
On the RSVP card, I made sure that there was a line that asked for the number of guests in the party.
Post # 4
We received an invite not to long ago like this. My only suggestion to you is try and do the leg work and find out names etc if they have a SO. My Fiance and I have been together over 6 years, the invite was from someone who knows him really well and me fairly well and there was no excuse for the invite to say and guest (as opposed to having my name on it). Just pure laziness and kind of rude. I’m sure it was just a simple mix up we knew the groom not the bride. The whole wedding was really wacky anyway they literally had a 3 month engagement, with a destination wedding – they only sent the invites out a month before the wedding. In the end I’m sure the bride and her mom were probably stumped and scrambling so they did what they had to do.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I would also write the name of the guest on the outer envelope.
Post # 6
Here is a good link for address etiquette
An excerpt fromt he link about “and Guest” or “and Family” scenarios
“and Guest” or “and Family”
You may wish to extend an invitation to a single guest to bring a guest of their own. Whether you choose to or not is entirely up to you, but outside envelopes should not say “and Guest”. This should be printed on the inside envelope. Should no inside envelope be used and you know that a particular single guest would like to bring someone, it is advisable to take the time to find out the guest’s name. We realize that getting this information can be somewhat tedious, so here are some creative alternatives to using “and Guest” on the outer envelope:
- Fill-in the RSVP card with the guests name along with the words “and Guest”
- Bundle your invitation and contents with a ribbon and tag or a belly belt that has the guest name printed on it with the words “and Guest” prior to placing it into your outer envelope.
These suggestions can also be applied to the “and Family” scenario. Lastly…. since we are not the addressing police and if you absolutely want to have “and Guest” or “and Family” on the outer envelope, we will advise of alternatives, but you have the last word… if you want it, we will do it.
Post # 7
We had no inner envelope and did:
Mr. & Mrs. John Smith
Mr. & Mrs. John Smith & Family
Mr. John Smith
Mr. John Smith & Guest (if you don’t know the date)
Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jane Doe (if you do know the date)
Post # 8
We don’t have an inner envelope either. I plan on writing the number of seats reserved on the RSVP card. I am going to try to get the guest’s name in advance though. Facebook makes things really easy nowadays for cousins we barely talk to!
Post # 9
We used these same invites and just changed around the RSVP wording to include a “blank” of “blank” and just filled in the second blank. There was also a space for guests to write their names. It worked out pretty well. If we knew everyone’s name, then I invariably wrote it on the outer envelope unless I was getting lazy or running out of room.