(Closed) Invitation wording

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
40 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

If the cocktail hour is right after the ceremony, you shouldn’t put the time on the invitation, just say that the reception is immediately following the ceremony.  If there’s going to be a gap between the ceremony and cocktail hour, you should include a time. 

I would just leave the kids names off of the invitations and design the response cards so that there isn’t room to include them.  I’m sure you’ve seen the posts suggesting the following wording: ____ of 2 will be attending.  Most people will understand, but you may have to be more direct with a few of your guests.

Post # 4
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

It may not be the most proper way, but if it was very important not to have children I would put at the bottom of the invite (assuming the cocktail hour is immediately following the ceremony), “Adults only cocktail reception to follow” or something like that. There won’t be any uncertainty that way.

Post # 5
1189 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I was VERY tempted to put something about “adults only” but every book on proper decorum said it’s not polite to exclude someone on an invitation–it defeats the purpose of the invite!  I think just spreading that by word of mouth and including something on your website should suffice.  If you see someone has RSVPd for extras, call them to gently let them know that due to space/ budget, etc. there just isn’t room.  Good luck!

Post # 6
803 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

its really considered a bit no-no to specify an adults only reception (kinda like putting a registry on your invite).  you can put “formal reception to follow” which normally indicate adults only.  you can also use word of mouth (again, like registry info) to pass the word along. 

if your cocktail hour follows, there is no need to put the information on the invitation.

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