(Closed) invitation wording

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

That does seem rude.  How long have you and your Fiance been together?  Is it possible that the bride and groom don’t even know that your Fiance is dating you, much less in a committed relationship??  That’s the only thing I can think of.

I don’t really know what you can say if they put “and guest” on the place card, since you’re written your name on the RSVP.  Hopefully this doesn’t happen!  If it does, I’d probably be offended too, but what can you really say at that point?  It’s not like they are going to go make a new place card for you right then and there.  It sounds like you’re not friends with these people and that they are your FI’s friends.  I wouldn’t worry about it too much.

Post # 4
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I was invited to a wedding about a year ago, and my husband and I were already engaged.  It had his name and a guest.  I had met them before, but I think they were playing it safe.  It was likely not intentional or assuming you weren’t together.  Since I was doing the invitations, there were some generalities involved in our invitations since my husband couldn’t remember names. 

Don’t worry about it now, and Adira is right – now that you’ve RSVPd, they will likely have your name on the place card.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The same thing happened to me and totally pissed me off as well!

My neighbor is getting married and his fiancee put ‘and guest’ for my FH. The groom could have easily called his mom and asked her and if she wasn’t sure she could have asked my mom. I would have fine with even his first name. To make matters worse they put my name on the invite with my parents! I mean I do still live at home (in the process of moving), but I’m 24!!! Should have had my own invite. Etiquette people!

When it came time to send out my STD’s I thought about just putting my neighbors name and guest for his fiancee but ultimately decided that would be wrong.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I can understand why you would be pissed off, but I think a lot of people do that if a couple isn’t married. Because if you two broke up then he is really only inviting his friend and whoever he choses to bring. I have seen this done alot if the bride and groom are not friends with both people.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@LY1923: Cute! I’m sure she will be thriled to see her married name on the STD! I think it will be fun for my neighbors fiancee to see her maiden on the STD and married on the actual invite (least to me it would be).

Post # 10
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I can understand why it would be annoying to get that, but I am addressing all of my invites with ‘and guest’ rather than names unless people are married. You just never know. However since you put your name on the RSVP I would defintely put your name on your placecard. I don’t want any ‘and guests’ on our placecards.

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