(Closed) Invitation wording

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If you are paying for the wedding yourselves then your wording is correct.

 

It’s so annoying when everyone is questining all of your choices but really you have to remember this is your special day and who cares if they don’t like something or another? It’s your day!

 

If they get offended, tell them that’s the correct wording and to get off your back. Try to put it a little sweeter than that, lol.

 

Post # 4
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ashron:  I am also not including the names of our parents on our invitations.  My fiance and I are completely paying for the wedding ourselves, and from what I understand, you’re supposed to include those who are contributing to the costs of the wedding on the invitation as a way of thanking them for doing so. 

Some people are just sticklers for these types of rules even if they don’t serve any real purpose… in my opinion the inclusion of parents’ names is irrelevant if they aren’t contributing.  They aren’t the ones getting married, you and your fiance are independent of them – so why do they need to be listed?

My two cents… I’m not an expert on these things. 🙂 Just don’t let these people get you down!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

double post! 🙂

Post # 5
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1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

First off, I agree that since you’re paying, you can word the invites any way you choose. However, if it’s going to cause unnecessary drama, there’s a way to put their names in while making it clear they’re not paying.  You’d write it like this

Ms. Julie Anne Cooper

daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Allan Cooper

and

Mr. Nicholas James Swanson

son of Mr. and Mrs. Christopher Swanson

request the ….

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am in the same situation and didn’t include our parents names on our invitations.  I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that we are never going to make everyone happy.  Someone will be  upset about something so I’m over worrying about it.  Try not to stress too much and try to enjoy the palnning 🙂

Post # 8
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2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Actually the invitation is issued in the name of the hosts.  We are in our 40’s and hosting our wedding so we did not put our parents names on the invites either

You are correct and you should just give any complaining relatives a sweet sad smile and say “oh my I am sorry but we just wanted to follow tradition, thank you for your advice”  and change the subject

Post # 9
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627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We also didn’t use our parents names. Although both sets of parents have contributed small amounts it’s way tooconfusing. Both of our parents are divorced. My mom has a long time partner, my dad is ‘engaged’ his mom is remarried and his dad is single. How do you include 4 sets of people on one invite who all helped a little? We just had our invites say ” they decided on forever and forever begins when we bla bla bla” So don’t worry, just remember its your day and just do what you feel is best.

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