(Closed) Invitation wording!!

posted 4 years ago in Paper
Post # 4
27 posts

I would just write “Please RSVP by ________”. Then maybe a week or two before that date, call or email those that you haven’t heard from yet to give them a gentle reminder. Say something like “I just wanted to make sure you received my invitiation, I need to give the caterer a head count by _________ and hadn’t heard from you yet. I hope nothing got lost in the mail!”

That way you give them a chance to RSVP. Then if they get a hold of you a few weeks later, you can politely say “I’m so sorry, we’ve already given the headcount to the caterer. If anyone ends up cancelling I’ll be sure to let you konw, but at this point we can’t change our headcount without being charged extensive fees by the catering service.” THey can’t complain, because you gave them a fair chance when you called them!

Post # 5
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@eecuadrado:  I wouldn’t say anything. Just ut an RSVP date by it and make that date far enough in advance that you have time to chase people down. The extra note is kind of snotty sounding and honestly, if you know your guests aren’t the type to RSVP, they probably aren’t going to read that message and abide by it, so you’ll still have people showing up that didn’t RSVP.

Unfortuantely, chasing down RSVPs is a necessary evil when it comes to wedding planning.

Post # 6
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Unfortunately, the PPs are right. It’s almost like a right of passage chasing people down for their answer. Just wait, you’ll get the “Of couse I’m coming. Why would you think otherwise?” answer. And it will be annoying. And you’ll want to scream at them if they’d RSVP’d to begin with you wouldn’t need to have this conversation. Have fun!

Post # 7
24 posts

Agreed! Give yourself enough time in advance…a little bit of cushion to start chasing people down who have yet to respond. You can even put your Maid/Matron of Honor or BMs to the task 🙂

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