(Closed) Invitation wording about dress code? Help!

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Cocktail Attire has seemed to work for us, based on what we’re hearing (I’ll tell you if the actual event changes things!). People seem to understand that it isn’t casual, and it isn’t formal, but it’s “dressy.” 

You will get some questions, though. Do you have a website where you can spell it out a bit more? That realy helps. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hmmm…on our website I put dressy casual. By that I meant khakis, cute skirts or dresses, button downs, etc. It seemed to work well-most people came in sports coats or dresses with heels. Not sure if this helps!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I might be too casual for you, but I put “flip flop friendly” on my invites.  My ceremony will be outdoors in August, so comfort is priority.  

I think if you don’t say anything, people will probably google your venue and see what kind of vibe it has.  When you say “dinner to follow” on the invites (as opposed to “cocktail reception to follow” or “BBQ to follow”) people will get the idea that it’s more formal.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are most folks locals? If they are, you could put “business casual” and they’ll apply the Florida adaptation, which generally means “suitable for the office but I won’t roast in it.”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@kaitywait:  That’s what I would do. I usually appreciate being told upfront on the invite what the dress code is. I just didn’t have room on my invite so I put it on the wedding website.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Maybe it’s me, but I would describe it in as basic, “normal” terms as possible (e.g. business casual, formal, cocktail attire, etc.). I think if people saw “seaside chic”, it may be a little vague/unusual so you may end up with a wide variety of attire and not all of it appropriate. Perhaps you can go with “resort casual”? I don’t know about your area, but it is fairly widely accepted here. You would end up with a more relaxed, less evening version of cocktail attire, I believe. So like men in khakis and polos/short sleeve button downs, vs black pants and long sleeve dress shirt, no tie. GWIM?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

A friend of mine used “casual elegant summer reception” a couple years ago, and it got the idea across. Guys mostly wore khakis and either short-sleeved button downs, polos, or guayaberas; girls showed up in everything from sundresses to maxi dresses to very casual cocktail dresses.  It was a nice laid-back vibe without being TOO laid back- I don’t recall anyone in jeans.

That said, if someone does show up in jeans or a Hawaiian shirt, you probably won’t notice or remember, so don’t worry too much about it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

If I saw “flip flop friendly” on an invitation, I would take it to mean *extremely* casual, i.e. the type of thing you are trying to avoid. Maybe something like, “Cocktail attire; casual footwear recommended” gets at the right blend of nice clothes but beach-appropriate shoes?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Typically, it is considered rude to dictate what your guests wear on an invitation. The only exception being if it is a true black tie affair.

The guests will gauge the formality by the formality of the invitations, word of mouth, hints on the invitation ie: Cocktails and dinner to follow. If your guests pick dinner with their RSVP then that hints at a plated dinner, which indicates a more formal atmosphere.

You could also have an FAQ section on your wedding website, which can then spell out the dress code. That’s considered acceptable b/c the guest willingly stubles upon it (or seeks it out) as opposed to being outright told on the invitation.

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