(Closed) Invitation Wording… Disgruntled Mother….

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe move the parents part up top above your names?  Something like this:

together with their parents

Brides Parents
Groom’s Parents,


invite you to share in the joy of their wedding

Reception to follow etc.

I know that it is traditional etiquette to have it the way you wrote but you don’t want to have your parents upset about the wording.

Post # 5
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree that the parents should be listed before your names b/c they are paying more than you and your fiance are.  If your parents are paying for half of the wedding, then their names should definitely come first.   I like Miss AsB’s suggestion for wording.

Post # 6
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Arg…don’t you just hate this nonsense? If everyone’s names are going to be on the invitation, I would consider compromising with your mom. Honestly I don’t think any guests are going to think…bride’s parents are listed first…that must mean they are paying for the majority of the wedding and the others blah blah blah…


Even though my mister’s parents are helping us a bit more, my mom is doing what she can to help…we just put “together with their parents” (did not list parents; names).

Post # 8
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Do people honestly think that when I get a wedding invitation, I look at the order of names and go OH SO AND SO’S PARENTS PAID MORE? Nobody does that. I went through this with my mom and finally got her to realize how stupid it is to nitpick about the order of names.

Post # 9
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Can you imagine how productive you could be working on other important stuff if you weren’t having to spend your time on keeping everyone happy?  I find that I’m spending more time worried about everyone else’s feelings than doing what I origionally wanted…ARG!!!!

Best of luck to you!

Post # 10
1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve never given it a second thought. I guess you notice stuff more as you plan your own wedding though.

Post # 11
1580 posts
Bumble bee

I actually do think that the traditional wording implies that the bride’s parents are hosting the event. I think older people (parents and grandparents) generally think that way too.

I’m glad you were able to come to a decision everyone was happy with 🙂

Post # 12
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

Ha! We just finalized the wording for my daughter’s invitations yesterday,and did them exactly as you did in the first example. WE (bride’s family) are paying the majority of all costs,but the groom’s family and my daughter & fiancee are also contributing…..I actually suggested that they have their names  first. It just looked better to me! lol.   Sometimes people DO get a little nuts over the silliest things.

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