(Closed) Invitation Wording for 1 Parent "Request" or "Requests"

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: What should the wording be for 1 parent hosting the wedding?
    Requests : (14 votes)
    100 %
    Request : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    7560 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think they’re saying it’s traditional to say “request” because traditionally it’s both parents making the request. It’s not proper English but they probably don’t want to be wrong on their website. 

    Post # 4
    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’d go with the proper grammar. Otherwise it would really grate on me and I know a bunch of my guests would feel that way too.

    Sometimes traditions are just not useful anymore, but this sounds so nonsensical I don’t think it is a tradition at all.

    Post # 6
    1671 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    @tmarie1127:  Really? I would expect a professional to maybe ask “do you want it to read ‘name requests’ or ‘name request’?” I would expect someone to tell me if my wording was a little off as it is so easy to leave a letter out accidentally if you are writing it. In the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter – but poor grammar will be noticed and it does bother some people (like me).

    Post # 7
    9952 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Just to be doubly sure… I checked my Post Institute of Etiquette BIBLE “Wedding Etiquette”… and it clearly should be REQUESTS for one person doing the Inviting and REQUEST for 2 or more.

    Too bad this Company hasn’t got the where withall to check (I mean it isn’t difficult at all)

    The mistake would clearly make me shudder too… and moreso if I had ordered Invites, and then only found the error later !!

    Not very professional in my opinion.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 9
    9952 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    TO @tmarie1127:  lol, Resident Etiquette snob here (comes with my career)

    Re – Reply # 7

    Ok, I blew up the Invite on my computer… and it indeed lists

    Son of Mr & Mrs etc… below the Groom’s name.

    BUT this is commonly done as a courtesy to the Groom (and his family) mentioning them on the Invite.  But in this format it does not means that they are the Hosts

    IF they were co-hosting, then the correct format, would be their names at the top of the Invite listed jointly with the Other Parents:


    Mr. and Mrs. David Zimmerman


    Captain and Mrs. John Gonzalez

    request the honour of your presence

    at the marriage of

    Cynthia Ann Zimmerman


    John Howard Gonzalez, junior


    * Quoted as per “Wedding Etiquette” by the Post Institute for Etiquette… Third Edition, Page 109

    So YES… in this case, where clearly the Bride’s Mother is the host, the wording should be REQUESTS… not request.

    Mrs. Pamela Belcher

    requests the honor of your presence

    at the marriage of her daughter

    Hope Nicole Hayden


    Thomas Brian Adcock

    son of


    Plain and simple, either the Bride made the mistake when she ordered them… or the Company did when they didn’t tell her / correct them when printing them.

    But to stick by their info at this point in time is ridiculous.  They are clearly wrong… and showcasing this Invite on their Website / Facebook is silly… especially so as it will attract attention in a negative way (such as it is now and here on WBee)

    Hope this helps,


    The topic ‘Invitation Wording for 1 Parent "Request" or "Requests"’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors