Post # 1
I am making my own invitations and trying to figure out if I should include a Reception card in the pocket. I am having a traditional chinese ceremony which are normally families only so my guests will just attend the banquet at time specified on invite. I have three inserts currently and it seems a layer is missing which I can include a Reception card. Originally I had the banquet information right on the invite. Would it be weird to take that off leaving no addresses on the invite and just put it on a reception card?
REQUEST THE HONOR OF YOUR
PRESENCE TO SHARE WITH US
THIS JOYOUS CELEBRATION OF LOVE.
BANQUET WILL BE HELD
ON SATURDAY, THE TWENTY-FIRST OF JUNE
TWO THOUSAND AND EIGHT AT
HALF PAST FIVE IN THE EVENING
and then the address and place of location can be posted on Reception card?
Also I like to give guests the option of rsvping online since my wedding website has that option, however would that make it less formal? I will be including a RSVP card with stamped envelope, but then I’m afraid I would be wasting all that postage if most of my guests reply online. For the older guests, I will just not have the rsvp online part, however, I have a feeling that some of my friends will be replying online. Or should I just not bother at all to include rsvp online. I could just be confusing myself altogether.
Any help would be great.
Post # 3
We’re having a casual wedding, and even though I know this isn’t "proper" wedding etiquette and I’m sure some people will be very upset that I’m doing it this way, I listed to RSVP to our wedding website or call my phone number. I figure most people will do the website, but for those very few stuck-in-their-ways people, they can just call me and let me know.
You can always just keep track online or let your close friends know that they can RSVP online via word of mouth without decreasing the formality.
Post # 4
I think if you have room to put it on the invitation, why not put the banquet address there? A reception card would be useful if say, you were inviting guests to both the ceremony and reception and they were at different locations. Usually I see the ceremony info and address directly on the invite, while the reception info and address (along with map how to get from point A to point B) is on the reception card. That said, since you are just having a banquet, I would put the address info straight on the invite, to 1) save paper, 2) decrease potential confusion as guests shuffle through cards to look for the address to the banquet site, and 3) it would keep your invite card from looking empty. Thats just my two cents.
Post # 6
My opinion… Only do the mail in card RSVP not the online. That way you will not have to hassle yourself to keep track of the regular mail and the online RSVP site. Another reason is that, I know it is weird to say, but some people may not have access to a computer or email.
Now to the address thing, I agree with Peaches, put the address on the invite.
Post # 7
We just finished assembling our invitations last week (6 hrs labor with 9 ppl, wooooo!) and since we’re having more or less a traditional Chinese wedding, we had the banquet info (address, time) directly on the invite. We put the map to the banquet location with our accomodations insert. We also have a separate insert for the tea ceremony because we will be having 2, one for mine and one for his. So that brings it to the invite itself, an insert for accomodations/map, one for the ceremonies, the RSVP postcard, oh and we also made some Chinese invites for our old school family members 😛
Post # 8
thanks everyone for your input… this has been extremely helpful! =)