(Closed) Invitation wording for complicated parental situation

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2342 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think that whoever pays for what should be the decision.  Can’t you say “Parents” or “families”?  I think it gets too complicated when money is a factor (isn’t that the case in all situations?)  any hoot…I think doing it this way makes it less complicated and they are all included without anyones feelings being hurt.

Post # 5
7 posts
  • Wedding: December 2009

I had a similar situation.  Mother and Father are divorced.  Father and Stepmother (who helped raise me) are separating.  I had to consult two etiquette books but what I learned is that traditionally, the brides parents host the wedding regardless of who pays.  As your parents are “giving your hand in marriage” their names go on the first line. You can always do the following

Mrs and Mr. Mother and Stepfather

Mr. Father

request the pleasure of your company…


Your name and your fiances should be in the middle of the page to draw the eye to that space.  I also had my invitation designer make my parents names smaller and mine bigger to take the focus off of the non traditional parenting wording.  Good luck.

Post # 6
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My brother and I are in the same boat.  His in laws paid for only half the wedding and our parents paid for Rehearsal Dinner and the remaining half of the wedding.  Our parents are divorced. Dad is remarried and mom has been dating a man for 6 years now.  So my brother just put on his invite Together with our parents. 

My Fiance and I are doing invitations that look like a poster with an airplane on them.  So we just had our names.  It is really graphic fonts etc. And so we aren’t worried with the formal wording.

Post # 8
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I understand the complexity. Both Fiance and my parents are divorced. Both FI’s parents contributed toward the wedding and my parents couldn’t contribute anything. We just checked with them about what they felt comfortable with regarding invitation wording. FI’s mother did not want her name listed with his dad and stepmother’s names. She’d rather her name be left off completely, so we just said John & Jane invite you to celebrate …

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