(Closed) Invitation wording for Groom’s divorced parents

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You dont have to give them their own line.  My FI’s parents are divorced and his dads name wont be on the invite at all, instead he will have his Uncle’s name, since his uncle took care of him as a father. Both his Future Mother-In-Law and FI’s uncles names will be on one line. I did worry about this for a while but realized that this is one of those things that most people wont really care about

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We used “Together with their parents” and I liked it much more than Mr and mrs so and so and son of so and so…..its just weird to me! We had a somewhat formal wedding and Togethe with their parents fit us better because there were several parties contributing to the wedding AND my parents are divorced. Honestly the wedding is about the couple that is getting married so I feel like their names are the only ones who should be featured on the invitation! The only reason why you put the other names is to denote who paid for the wedding and to me that is ridiculous!!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Well, the old-school answer to this problem might actually suit your situation.

1) The bride’s parents issue the invitation in their own name, and mention their daughter and the full name of the man she is marrying:

Mr and Mrs  DadsFirst Lastname
request the honour of the presence of
Mr and Mrs Guest
to the marriage of their daughter
DaquiriS
to
Mr FIfirst FIlast… &tc

There’s also nothing wrong with “Mr Dad Lastname and Ms Mom Lastname if your mom prefers having her first name used. You can in fact even use Mrs Mom Lastname if she likes that — it is a very old form that’s outdated by Victorian standards, but not essentially wrong.

2) The mother of the groom, wishing to have a share in the celebrations that somehow approaches the role of the bride’s mother, offeres to host a reception dinner and sends her own formal invitations

Mrs Maidenname FIlast
request the pleasure of the company of
Mr and Mrs Guest
to Dinner in honour of
Miss DaquiriS Lastname
and her son 
FIfirst … &tc

3) The father of the groom and his wife, if they wish to get their names up in lights, have to offer to host something themselves. An engagement party would have been nice, but it’s a bit late. Maybe an “at Home” in your honour when you get back from your honeymoon.

If that’s not enough recognition to keep all parents happy, you can add in small print at the foot of the programme, list everyone: “DaquiriS is the daughter of Dad Lastname and Mom Lastname. Fiance is the son of FIMom Lastname; and is the son of FIdad Lastname and stepson of FIstepmom Lastname”. You can even put this in small print at the bottom of the invitation, or even just use “courtesy listings” in the right bottom corner of the invitation listing all five names one above the other. In these less-formal entries you can choose to use titles or not, first names or not, whatever your parents all prefer.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@PitBulLover – Great idea. I think I might use that for both our parents are divorced!

Post # 7
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659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

If FH’s parent is paying for the rehearsal and a few small things, she can send invites for the rehearsal saying “Me, mother of ____ invite you”

We kept my FH’s parents off the invites.  His mom did not want to be on them without my FH’s dad – the are in the process of getting a divorce and there are so many issues I can’t even describe.  Our invite was:

Dad and Mom JinDC (first names)

Inte you to share in their joy

at the marriave of their daughter

Me (first and middle name) to Him (full name)

date, time, location

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i like how you did it with separate names on the same line

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

OH my this is so up my alley of a question too!  What do you do when both of the grooms parents are remarried!  I believe that my parents are paying for most of it while his mom and step-dad along with his Dad and Step-mother will pay for the rehershal dinner.  I don’t have a clue how to do our invites b/c i don’t want to list everyone, but I know that I might offend my Fiance and his mom.  I always thought it was an introduction of who’s who too.  I didn’t know that it’s whom is paying for wedding.

His mom’s name is Judy, his step-dad (whom he’s closer to) is Rich

His dad’s name is Robert M. Sr. and step-mom Judy.

So I don’t want to put Mr. & Mrs. Brides parents

invite you to attend

Bride & Groom

along with Mr. & Mrs. Groom’s mom and husband name; and Mr. & Mrs. Grooms dad and wife name.

It’s just TOO long! what can I do??

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are going to do “Together with thier families” and then just put both of our names.  My parents are both divorced and remarried, and we are paying for 90% of the wedding ourselves.  Just a suggestion, although I understand if you have your heart set on includeing everyone’s name.

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