Post # 1
I need some help. Im having trouble with invitation wording. If I am inviting a single male to the wedding and allowing him to bring a guest, how to I put that on the card?
As we have it now the cards will be addressed like
123 ABC Street, Town NJ”
Then on the reply cards we have:
” We look forward to celebrating with you.
The favor of reply is requested by
August 1, 2013
_______ people will attend”
My question is though, how will a guest know if they are invited alone or if they are allowed to bring a guest. And the same question for invitations that we are sending to full family’s whos children may have a guest invite and may not.
Do we list everyones name on the responce card? Put and guest for those we would like to give a guest? or what? Im so lost. Any help greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
We are dealing with this by addressing to “Mr. Jones and Guest”. Some people also write it out on the reply card. We aren’t going to do that, but may do some sort of inner envelope situation and restate exactly who is invited.
Post # 4
@bella731: Traditional etiquette in these situation actually is to send the single Mr. Jones his own invitation — adressed to him alone — at his address. You would write his full name on the outer envelope (Mr. John Edward Jones, for example), and, if you are using inner envelopes, you would write Mr. Jones on the inner envelope.)
If you would like to extend an invitation to a guest of Mr. Jones’ choosing, the proper protocol is to contact him and ask him the name and address of the date he wishes to have invited to the wedding, and you would then send Miss Jane Elizabeth Doe her own invitation at her own address.
Although response cards and reply envelopes are not traditional from an etiquette perspective (guests traditionally write their own notes on their own writing paper to accept or decline the invitation), many people have come to expect them. so most of us choose to include them. I did.
In addition to my chosen response date, my response cards looked like this:
_____ will attend
_____ unable to attend
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@Brielle: I agree with this.
If he can’t furnish a name, then he doesn’t know anyone he’s close enough to that he needs to bring that person as a guest to an event as important as a wedding.
Post # 6
@bella731: On the other hand, if you don’t really care about the length or seriousness of your guest’s relationshing with their date, but just want to offer them the opportunity to bring a date, you could indicate that by changing the wording on the response card.
We have reserved ___ seats in your honor
___ of ___ will attend
__ of ___ will be unable to attend.
You write in 2 seats, and they know they can bring a date.
You still may have to find out their date’s name at a later date if you intend to use escort cards, placecards or a seating chart.
Invitations to families shoud be addressed to each member of the family who is included in the invitation. Adult family members should receive their own invitation even if still living at home with their parents.
My suggested wording also makes it clear how many family members are invited.