Invitation wording for no extra guests

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll:
    "Due to the intimate nature of our wedding, extra guests will not be permitted" on response card : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Have individuals names on response card with a "will attend" or "will not attend" next to their name : (45 votes)
    87 %
    Both above options on response card : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Say nothing and hope no one brings extra guests : (4 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Babesapien: On the response card you can put:

    “We have reserved x seats in your honor

    ___ of x will attend”

    That way they have a max number of people invited.

    Post # 4
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    A lot of people write on the reply card  “We have reserved # seats in your honor” or “__ of __ will attend” and then fill In the max you want

    Post # 5
    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Just address the invitation to the person being invited ONLY… (not Mr & Mrs Sims and Family)

    Also, your RSVP cards can have the person’s name on it, or:

    “__1__ seat has been reserved in your honor

    _____ Accepts     _____ Declines”


    or something like that.  I definitely would NOT put anything on the invitation.

    Post # 7
    196 posts
    Blushing bee

    We did our RSVP online.  They can log in and answer yes or no for the specific people invited.  There is no way for them to change the names or add extras.

    Post # 9
    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @KatNYC2011: Genius! I can’ tbelieve I never thought of wording it that way haha

    Post # 10
    26 posts
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Oh wow, this is really helpful.  I’m having a really small wedding at our house, so, when I invite one person, they really can’t bring another… because there are no extra seats!  Looks like there are some really good options from the other bees.  I don’t know which one I’ll be using, but I’ll be using one of these for sure!

    Post # 12
    1370 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    With the __ of __ will attend options, how do you know which guests are coming?  Say a family of 4, 2 of 4 are coming.  Do they write their names somewhere?  Otherwise how do you do escort cards without the names??

    Post # 13
    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    This is my response card – we simply have to fill in the second blank on will attend before we send

    Now that is not to say that someone might not fill in 4 of 2 but then I feel it is my turn to pick up the phone and say I am sorry but the venue size is limited and while we would love to accomodate you – ummm NO!


    Post # 14
    1 posts
    • Wedding: May 2014

    wow so glad I was able to read these posts to get an idea of how to make sure I don’t get any extra guests. I am so dreading this part because my fiances family does just this. It’s so rude and I’m really hoping it doesn’t happen at my reception, but I have to prepare myself that even though I’m going to go ahead and go with the idea to have each individuals name on the RSVP card added in it still may happen. Ugghhh dreading this…

    Post # 15
    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Babesapien:  I, too, was worried about this, so I ordered free Vistaprint business cards that say, our wedding is small — thanks for not adding guests — blah blah.  It went something like that.  We didn’t include the card in everyone’s invites, and it might seem a bit rude to include, but we just don’t have room for extra guests!  Good luck!

    Post # 16
    193 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I don’t have any personal experience but I have read a few of these kinds on posts on here, and I think putting the guests name + will/will not attend next to it is the best option.

    I’ve seen a tonne of examples where “X seats have been reserved in your honour. ___ of X will be attending” often leads to people substituting other people in if their partner can’t come.. if this is an intimate wedding this could be really awkward for you if you are not keen on this kind of thing happening.

    I personally told my parents, friends and my nana (to ensure word gets around) that I will not be introducing myself to anyone at my wedding! I don’t care who they are, if they are important enough to my friends/family then I should already know them!

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