(Closed) Invitation wording for no extra guests

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll:

    "Due to the intimate nature of our wedding, extra guests will not be permitted" on response card

    Have individuals names on response card with a "will attend" or "will not attend" next to their name

    Both above options on response card

    Say nothing and hope no one brings extra guests

  • Post # 17
    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I realize this is an old thread but I wish

    I would have read it before I sent out my invitations. We are having a very intimate ceremony, and just tonight had a guest with no spouse/so (not even a casual fling) RSVP for 2 even though she was not given a guest. We have no extra room but if we said no to this particular guest were hardly close to my father would be mortally offended.

    Post # 18
    349 posts
    Helper bee

    For my daughter’s December ceremony, the greater concern is uninvited children.  We felt the “x number of seats have been reserved” option still left the door open for substitute guests.  For example, invitation is sent to Mr. and Mrs. John Jones, whose two children are uninvited.  Mrs. Jones indicates that 2 will attend, but she brings her ill-behaved six year old daughter, who “loves weddings,” rather than her invited spouse.  We are using the following wording:

    Please indicate attendance for each invited guest and respond no later than November 20th using the enclosed envelope or [email protected]

    John Jones ____ accepts _____declines

    Jane Jones ____ accepts _____ declines

    We look forward to sharing our special day with you!

    Hoping this gets the desired result without too many hurt feelings!

    Post # 19
    2023 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @Honey-Bee:  I was freaking out about my guest count too and not wanting any +1s.  I am having a slightly larger wedding though with what I thought would be 150-180 guests max.  I have been getting my RSVPs back and it looks like the attendance will be closer to 110 so I have A LOT of room!  I have had a few put in for a +1 and now I dont care!  Maybe that will happen for you if someone or a few you expected to be there declined those +1s could take their spot.  I hope it works out for you. 

    Post # 20
    670 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m so glad i saw this post…. I was worried about my small wedding too.  Know i know what to say!

    Post # 21
    6523 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Babesapien:  You don’t want to come off as rude to your guests by telling them who is NOT invited. So on your RSVP card simply write X Seat(s) have been reserved in your honor

    Post # 21
    1 posts

    What about this? “Due the intimate nature of our wedding, seating is reserved for invited guests only.”



    Post # 22
    63 posts
    Worker bee

    if I may jump in….i am having a very small wedding and I put “M_______ accepts with pleasure/declines with regret and then put “___ (number) of seats resevred” and I wrote in a number…either 1 or 2. I have a family member whose wife can’t make it (invites address to the husband and wife) so he still put 2 accepts but said he is taking teenage kid now. Only adults on the invite….adults only wedding or else I would have addressed “The family of…”. What do you guys think?

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