Post # 1
So, I am getting ready to order my invites and I am not sure how to word it. My parents are paying for 75% ($30,000.00) of the wedding and the wedding is in my hometown in Seattle, WA. My FIL’s are contributing about 12.5% ($5,000.00) and live in Arizona and we are paying for the rest 12.5%($5,000.00 this will also cover the rehearsal dinner). My family up here is throwing me bridal showers and my mom is really involved in the planning and the guestlist is about 75% my side and 25% FH side.
SO MY QUESTION IS: In the section where you say ______________________ requests the honor of your presence… I feel like I should put my dad’s and mom’s name. Or should I put both???
Thanks for any input!
Post # 4
Traditional wording is Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter “Bride” to “Groom”. That’s what we did, but my parents paid 100%. A lot of people these days add after the groom’s name “Son or Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s parents”. That way the groom’s parents are still included but the bride’s parents maitain the position of sole hosts. If you future in laws are paying for part of the actual wedding I do think you should include their names some where.
Post # 5
What about “Together with their families, [your name] and [his name] request the honor of your presence” to show that all parties are contributing?
We originally were planning to use this wording because both sides have made generous contributions (we’re paying for most of the wedding), but later decided on the following language, even if the sentiment has changed, since we wanted both sets of parents’ names on the invitation:
With the blessings of their parents,
[His parents’ names]
[My parents’ names}
[His name] and [My name]
request the honor of your presence
Post # 6
Thank you so much for writing this post!. I have a similar situation where my parents are paying for practically everyhting, and my FI’s parents are paying for some of the wedding (so they say). I feel uncomfortable giving full credit to FI’s parents, but wording the invitation the way MOOSE1219 suggested makes sense. That way both parents are mentioned while making it clear who the sole host is.
Post # 7
We have a very similar breakdown of who is paying for what. We did this, as some PPs have suggested:
Ms. My Mom
Mr. My Dad
request the honor of your presence…at the marraige of their daughter
Son of Mr. & Mrs. Groom’s Parents
Note: my parents are divorced, that is why they are listed separately.