Post # 1
I like the formality of titles (i.e. Mr. and Mrs.) but I’m not so into the traditional Mr. and Mrs. Man’sFirstName Lastname and would like to include our mother’s first names on the invitations as well. Would it be possible to word the invitation as follows? or is it just too wordy?:
Mrs. Jane Smith and Mr. John Smith
Mrs. Mary Clark-Jones and Mr. Michael Jones
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their children
Post # 3
Hmm, it sounds a bit off but I’m not sure why… I believe that after a couple has children, the man’s name goes first though.
Post # 4
@kingytobe: Yeah, I was wondering about the order of the names, too… it’s just that FI’s mom is recently remarried, so “Mr. Michael Jones” is actually his stepfather – and we would prefer to put his mom’s name first… or does that just make it completely awkward?
Post # 5
Given what was said above, I would put his mom’s name first, absolutely.
I don’t think your sample above is too wordy, but at the same time, I wouldn’t do it that way. I think what you wrote is fine, but personally, I would only want to write Smith once so it doesn’t seem redundant. We didn’t use the formalities of Mrs. and Mr. in our invites: ex. Jane and John Doe, together with Mary and William Smith.
Post # 6
@H216scrf: it’s definitely the redundancy of the last names that bothers me, but given that “Clark” is my FI’s last name – it made sense to write his parents’ names as “Mary Clark-Jones and Michael Jones”. Otherwise, it would be “Mary and Michael Jones” – with my FI’s name as “Christopher Clark” and that would just seem weird…. and if I use his mom’s last name, then it made sense to do the same with my parents’ names as “Jane Smith and John Smith.”
does anyone have any suggestions on how to make it sound better?
Post # 7
@thesejoys: What about Mr. & Mrs. John & Jane Smith? It’s quite clear who is who…
I like the fact that you are including your mother’s name….women don’t lose their identity of their first names when they marry. Does your mother ever hyphenate with her maiden name? You could put her “maiden-married” names, then it just looks like both mothers do.
I think it’s okay to break tradition in some places. Example: my parents are divorced so both of their names (mom’s maiden and dad’s last name) are going on the invitation. I feel that just using my first and middle name on the invitation (tradition) is silly, I too have a last name and want to be clear about which parent’s name it is. So I’ve listed all three of my names on the invite. Oh well, it’s just what I want to do!
Post # 8
@SouthRNComfort: yeah, I also plan on including my last name on the invite 🙂
I’ve heard that you’re not supposed to separate the man’s first name from his last name, which is why I went with the “Mrs. Jane Smith and Mr. John Smith” route.
My mother actually goes by her maiden name legally but uses my dad’s last name socially and never hyphenates – so I think she would prefer to go with my dad’s last name for the invitations.
Invitation wording can be so tricky!