(Closed) Invitation Wording??? HELP

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which sounds better?
    Formal Wear Attire Requested : (0 votes)
    Formal Attire Requested : (26 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    How about “Black Tie Optional”?

    That gets the point across without saying “formal attire requested”, something about an attire “requested” on the invite rubs me the wrong way a little.

    If I *had* to choose from your options I’d go with “Formal Attire Requested” but it still doesn’t really sit well with me.

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

     are you putting it on the reception card?

    of the two I’d choose the second one but they both sound awkward

    Post # 6
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @mags2233:  If you say “Black Tie Optional” that implies that a suit and tie is required at the very least.

    If you just say “black tie” that means a tux is required.

    So by saying “black tie optional” you are saying suits/ties and cocktail dresses at teh bare minimum without “requesting” or “requiring” anything of your guests.

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @mags2233:  if you have to tell someone to dress up for a wedding.  .. they probably won’t anyway.   Or they are going to pull their really old suit out of the closet.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @mags2233:  Just make sure your wedding is formal enough so if people show up in long gowns and tuxes (aka black tie) they don’t look out of place. 

     

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Wear and attire are basically the same thing. People generally know to dress nice for weddings also, at least from the weddings I have been to.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Formal wear attire requested is like saying “formal clothes clothing requested”… it’s redundant.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee

    @mags2233:  The formality of the invitation will also guide people’s choice of dress.  An engraved invitation, hand addressed with caligraphy, with no RSVP card is the most formal. 

    Also guests should never attend a wedding in jeans and t-shirts unless otherwise requested to do so.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Attire requests do not belong on invitations unless it is TRULY a black tie event (full open bar with top shelf alcohol, live band, etc.)  It is not polite to tell adults what to wear.  They will figure it out from the formailty of the invitation.  If that is not clear, they can ask you or your parents and you can give them guidelines that way.

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Do you have certain guests that you think would not dress up? If so do you know this person’s parents or relatives that might be able to pass the message down. I know I come from a large family where noone mind their business lol, so word of mouth gets out pretty quickly.

    I had a formal wedding and didn’t put anything on the invitations and everyone was in suits/dresses. A lot of times people go by the invitations and also the time and place where the wedding is being held. Saturday nights with a formal invitations usually spells out formal to your guests.

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