Post # 1
Decided on wording the invitations as ” together with their parents…”. Our situation is confusing.. My father is deceased, my mother cannot contribute too much but she’s helped with a few things, his parents are paying a large chunk, and we are also paying a large chunk. Because of all these circumstances, we decided it would be easy to just use the ” together with their parents..” wording. I reviewed this w both of our parents and they were cool w it also.
However, the confusion started at the print shop when I went in for a consult. The lady was like ” If you u together together w their parents wording then people will assume you have both been married before.” This is totally not the case, and now I am extremely confused!
Post # 3
Um, no, “together with their parents” has NOTHING to do with whether you’ve been married before. This person doesn’t know what she’s talking about. Maybe she’s been to one wedding where they used that wording and they had been married before? Who knows? But the wording you want to use means that you and your fiance and your parents are all contributing to the hosting (i.e. financing) of the wedding.
Post # 4
I would never think that if I saw that wording and also everyone your inviting knows you and would know you haven’t been married before. I like the wording and think it’s pretty standard when everyone is chipping in.
Post # 5
The print shop is definitely confused.
Post # 6
Huh?? Not only have I never heard of such a thing, but I cannot for the life of me understand how “Together with their parents” would imply a second marriage… Very very odd, ignore her, it means exactly what it says – that the bride & groom, together with their parents, invite the guests to the wedding.
Post # 7
That’s bizarre that printshop lady said that. It is completely not true. Keep you’re wording, it’s perfectly fine.
Post # 8
Ahh.. Thank you ladies!! The funny thing is.. I spoke w a friend of mine who had the same exact issue w the same exact lady. I mean she was ADAMENT about it and made you feel extrenely guilty. I feel like it is great wording as well when everyone is pitching in. I really appreciate you guys input!
Post # 9
@Sanola831: i think “together with their parents” is perfectly appropriate for your situation.
i don’t know why the printer would tell you that is for 2nd marriages?????? that doesn’t make sense. ignore the printer’s comments completely.
Post # 10
OK, I am in the EXACT same situation. Father deceased, mother paying for some but can’t do much, his parents paying a huge chunk and fiance and I paying a huge chunk. I’ve been debating on the “together with their parents” wording because my father is deceased. I wondered if it would be confusing or insensitive to the fact that my father has passed. Especially since I have a stepfather…who is wonderful but I wouldn’t want anyone thinking he is replacing my Dad. My Dad left me some money and I am using it toward the wedding, so I kind of think he is part of the “togeth with thier parents” phrasing. Thoughts? Does “together with thier families” imply something different?