Invitation wording help!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Mr. & Mrs. Lastname

invite you to the celebrate the marriage of their daughter 

first and middle

to 

first middle lastname

son of

The late mr. Father’s name & Mrs. Mother’s name

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Its not normal to include the groom’s parents unless they’re hosting or co-hosting…. so unless your Fi or his parents really want their names on there, I simply wouldn’t bother!

If you do it though, I guess a simple “son of Mr lastname and Mrs lastname” is the simplest solution

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I see how this can get complicated. We’re having a destination wedding which we’re are hosting (easy) and a home reception that both parents are contributing to. It wasn’t as formal as a full invitation but we wanted to give all of them a mention so we went with 

Along with their parents 

Rosieb52 and xxxxxx

would like to invite you to celebrate their marriage…….

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

{Dads First} and {Moms First} {Lastname} invite you to celebrate the marriage of their daughter 

{Your First and Last} 

To 

{His First and Last}

Son of the late {Dads Name} and {Moms First Name} and {Step Dads First Name} {Last Name} 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Just realized that’s kind of confusing. 

“John and Jane Blonde invite you to celebrate in the marriage of their daughter 

BEACHED BLONDE 

to

SAM BRUNETTE 

the son of the late George Brunette and Anne and Roger Black” 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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BeachedBlonde :  I think
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cameobride :  nailed it except I would add “the late” in front of your fiance’s father’s name. No need to include step parents. I would use the “Mr and Mrs Parents” formatting instead of their first names unless you’re going for something really casual. If you do want casual it should be “Mom and Dad Parent” since the formal rule is to never separate a man from his last name. 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I wouldn’t mention step parents unless your fiancé feels the need to.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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BeachedBlonde : Sorry, didnt realize there was also a step mother. You could do “son of the late George Brunette and Lady Brunette and Anne and Roger Black” but that is just if you want to include step parents. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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BeachedBlonde :  you can choose to either include or omit the step parents. step parents are typically included when the groom feels as though they played a role in raising him (i.e. parents got remarried when he was still a child living at home, rather than remarrying after he left the home). if you do include both step parents, i would separate the couples by line. so:

son of

the late Dad’s Name & Step Mother’s Name

and Mom’s Name & Step Dad’s Name

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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sensiblesusie :  “Its not normal to include the groom’s parents unless they’re hosting or co-hosting” — This is incorrect. The purpose of including the other parents is so recipients are clear on whose wedding it is. If it’s a small wedding and you’re 100% certain that everyone will know who Rachel & Ross are, then it’s not necessary to include the other parents. But if it’s a more typical wedding and the groom’s Great Aunt Hilda doesn’t know the bride or her parents, and maybe even the name Ross Gellar isn’t ringing a bell, including “Son of….” is very helpful. 

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BeachedBlonde :  The purpose of including the groom’s parents is to make sure everyone knows whose wedding it is. CameoBride’s wording is probably sufficient. Your fiance’s father’s family (including the stepmom and any of her relatives who might be invited) will know who “The Late Mr. Father’s Name” is. His mother’s family (including the stepdad and any of his relatives who might be invited) will know who “Mrs Mother’s Name” is. The problem comes in when people try to use the invitation to “honor” people or make a statement about who raised them etc. That’s not what invitations are for. Invitations are meant to give recipients the info they need to decide whether they’re attending the event or not. 

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