Post # 1

Member
27 posts
Newbee
We have to finalize our invitations this week but are stuck on the wording. My finance mother passed when he was young, his dad never remarried but has lived with someone for 15 years now, my fiance doens’t refer to her as stepmom, just by name. How do we word th invites? (these are fake names of course)
Mr. and Mrs. Smith
and
Mr. George Findley and Ms. Lisa McDonald
request……….
OR
just go by first names?
I’m worried about the Ms. part but first names take away the formality.
Any tips?
Post # 3

Member
1870 posts
Buzzing bee
I think that what you’ve done is correct, so long as both parties are hosting. However, generally it’d be “Mr. and Mrs. ROBERT Smith”–Father’s first name included. Why worried about the “Ms.”? That’s the title for women who are unmarried, as your FFIL’s girlfriend is.
The other thing to consider, however, since your FI’s dad and girlfriend are not married, is whether or not the girlfriend is contributing financially to the wedding. If she isn’t, then his father would be listed alone:
“Mr. and Mrs. Robert Smith
and
Mr. George Finley”
If your FI’s parents are not contributing financially, then their names can go underneath his name, and there you have some options:
“son of Mr. George Finley and the late Mary Finley”
“son of Mr. George Finley and Ms. Lisa MacDonald
and the late Mrs. Mary Finley”
But you do not have to list the groom’s parents if they are not hosting.