Post # 1
We’ve gone with the first cousins only rule for invitees to our wedding reception to cut down on our numbers. I have a lot of first cousins (invited) and almost all of them have children (not invited). My fiancee has one first cousin who’s 10 and is in the wedding. I have one 10-year-old nephew. These are the only two children invited to the reception. Many guests already know about the "no kids" rule. All of my cousins seem to be ok with this and most of my friends will be leaving their children with their parents or a babysitter because they want to cut loose and have fun.
We will be having a couple of other events (fairly informal barbeques) over the course of the weekend that all of the guests –including children– will be invited to. Some of my family and friends will bring their children for the weekend and we are arranging childcare. All of these events including the reception will be listed on the reception card.
What is the polite way to word the reception card so that guests know there are no kids at the reception?
This is how I have it worded so far:
- Welcome barbeque, hosted by so-and-so, at 6 pm, children welcome
- Reception, at such-and-such place, at 4 pm
- Day-after cookout, at such-and-such place, at 4 pm, children welcome
Do you think the absence of "children welcome" is enough of a hint, considering that most guests with children already know of the circumstances?
Post # 3
Are you having a destination wedding? If you’re having a destination event and you’re only inviting children to two events, will you be providing childcare for all of the children during the ceremony and reception? If so, I think that would be fine. I think people would get it…I would if I got it. I also wouldn’t bring my daughter though. 🙂
Post # 4
Adults only. It’s straightforward. You might include some information on childcare for that night, sometimes people arrange for babysitters for people’s children that night, so if they don’t have one, there is someone available to do so. If you do that, you can put contact ___ for childcare info.
Post # 5
I can appreciate wanting to inform people of the other weekend events when you send out the formal invitations. I would make the invitations only announcing the reception and that it’s an adult only reception. Then I would include and insert listing the other weekend activities, and which ones do include the kids.
Post # 6
I think that’s fairly clear. If you worry about the wording being too obtrusive (people have a range of opinions on what is ‘appropriate’ to put on the invitation/enclosures, so not sure where you and your guests fall on that spectrum), you could always say ‘family barbeque’ and ‘adult reception,’ then be more specific on your wedding website. Providing details about babysitting during specific events should make things pretty obvious, too, but if you really aren’t sure some people are getting the message and you’re not comfortable telling them outright, you can always call on the pretext of confirming that they’ll be bringing their kid(s) for the weekend because you want to make sure you have enough babysitters to attend to the children during the reception.