(Closed) Invitation wording nightmare. Please HELP!!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Does mom smith have a differant last name than john smith?

For instance, step dads name? I think that would be sort of obvious if so!

Post # 5
233 posts
Helper bee

Both of our parents are divorced (his remarried), and this is one way we’ve thought to do it:

Mr. MyDad Lastname and Ms. MyMom MaidenName

request the pleasure of your company 

at the marriage of their daughter

MyName Lastname

to HisName Lastname

Son of Mr. HisDad Lastname and Ms. StepMom HerLastname, and Mrs. HisMom NewLastname


Of course, mine works out a little easier because my Mom went back to her maiden name, his stepmom didn’t change her name from her first marriage, and his Mom remarried. 

Not sure if this helps! Good luck!

Post # 6
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ouch, that does make it harder.

Post # 7
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@junesommers:  I just did a Google search for invitation wording with divorced parents, and the wording you have used seems to be correct, etiquette-wise (if the source is right, lol–http://invitationetiquette.com/a-question-of-etiquette/what-is-the-proper-invitation-wording-for-divorced-parents).

Mrs. Mom Smith with Mr. Step Dad
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of her son

John Smith to Jane Doe…

Post # 9
11418 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

There are other bees with more experience with this than I have, but I believe that the proper and, perhaps, best option for you is to focus only on who is hosting the event and who it is that is getting married, and omit all of the other parents’ names entirely.

That would look like this:

Mr. Step Dad and Ms. Mom Smith
request the honour of your presence (or pleasure of your company) at the marriage of

Junesommers Anne Doe


Fiance Smith

day of week, day and month


at time of day

venue name

city, state

Would that work?

Post # 11
233 posts
Helper bee




Trying to combine etiquette with my suggestion here…

How about:

Mr. Dad Smith and Mrs. MomSmith with Mr. StepDad Smith?


Edit: Mr. Dad Smith with Mr. StepDad Smith and Mrs. MomSmith?


Ugh, this is hard!

Post # 14
233 posts
Helper bee

@junesommers: That sounds like a great way to keep from stepping on toes! Yay, we’re winning!

Post # 15
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What about being a little less formal? We’re having some weirdness when it comes to the financing of the wedding so we will use something like this:


Together with their families

Jane Doe


John Smith

Invite you to celebrate their marriage etc…

Post # 16
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@junesommers:  I think the way you have it is good!

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