Post # 1
Fiance and I have a very sensitive situation on our hands in terms of invitation wording. His parents are divorced and his mother and her husband (married when my fiance was already an adult) are paying for our reception. There was much drama surrounding this wedding due to fiance’s divorced parents. It’s possible that his dad and that whole side of the family won’t be coming at all because his ex-wive’s husband is paying for the wedding. So yes, a sticky situation.
In the invites, we definitely want to disclose the fact that fiance’s step-dad is paying for the reception, but we also want to acknowledge his dad, and my parents on the invitation. Do you think this is appropriate:
Lets call fiance John Smith, his mom Mom Smith, step-dad will be Step Dad, his dad is Dad Smith. And my whole family will be the Does:
Mrs. Mom Smith with Mr. Step Dad
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of HER son
John Smith to Jane Doe
Not sure how else to indicate that Mr. Step Dad is not his dad… also this way we can’t name Dad Smith or my parents.
SOMEBODY HELP! What a nightmare.
Post # 3
Does mom smith have a differant last name than john smith?
For instance, step dads name? I think that would be sort of obvious if so!
Post # 4
@jenilynevette: No his mom kept his dad’s last name, so same last name as fiance
Post # 5
Both of our parents are divorced (his remarried), and this is one way we’ve thought to do it:
Mr. MyDad Lastname and Ms. MyMom MaidenName
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
to HisName Lastname
Son of Mr. HisDad Lastname and Ms. StepMom HerLastname, and Mrs. HisMom NewLastname
Of course, mine works out a little easier because my Mom went back to her maiden name, his stepmom didn’t change her name from her first marriage, and his Mom remarried.
Not sure if this helps! Good luck!
Post # 6
Ouch, that does make it harder.
Post # 7
@junesommers: I just did a Google search for invitation wording with divorced parents, and the wording you have used seems to be correct, etiquette-wise (if the source is right, lol–http://invitationetiquette.com/a-question-of-etiquette/what-is-the-proper-invitation-wording-for-divorced-parents).
Mrs. Mom Smith with Mr. Step Dad
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of her son
John Smith to Jane Doe…
Post # 8
@Miss Radish: Hmmm that’s pretty nice, just thinking how this would work for us:
Mrs. Mom Smith and Mr. Step Dad, and Mr. Dad Smith
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their son…
I don’t know about this, this wording makes it look like he has 3 parents. hahah woes of modern society trying to be traditional!
Post # 9
There are other bees with more experience with this than I have, but I believe that the proper and, perhaps, best option for you is to focus only on who is hosting the event and who it is that is getting married, and omit all of the other parents’ names entirely.
That would look like this:
Mr. Step Dad and Ms. Mom Smith
request the honour of your presence (or pleasure of your company) at the marriage of
Junesommers Anne Doe
day of week, day and month
at time of day
Would that work?
Post # 10
@brighteyedgirl: ooo nice, that’s a helpful link. thank you!
Post # 11
Trying to combine etiquette with my suggestion here…
Mr. Dad Smith and Mrs. MomSmith with Mr. StepDad Smith?
Edit: Mr. Dad Smith with Mr. StepDad Smith and Mrs. MomSmith?
Ugh, this is hard!
Post # 12
@Brielle: this is exactly the idea i keep coming back to. Just sad to not include my parents on the invite…
Post # 13
@Miss Radish: yes this may work! especially if i list mom and step dad first, since they’re paying. brainstorming bees to the rescue!
Post # 14
@junesommers: That sounds like a great way to keep from stepping on toes! Yay, we’re winning!
Post # 15
What about being a little less formal? We’re having some weirdness when it comes to the financing of the wedding so we will use something like this:
Together with their families
Invite you to celebrate their marriage etc…
Post # 16
@junesommers: I think the way you have it is good!