- 11 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Hello Hive! this is my first post on the boards because I really have come upon my first huge issue with wedding planning.
It has to do with our invitation wording. My Fiance parent’s are paying for most of the wedding, (Their guests plus all of me and my FI’s guests) but my parents are contributing as well (for all of their guests).
I feel that since both parties are contributing, they are both considered “hosts” and no one needs to know who is contributing more. Therefore, my parents should be listed first on the invites in the the traditional way.
My Fiance feels that the reason the bride’s parent’s are traditionally listed first is because they traditionally pay more. Since that isn’t the case here, he feels his parents should be listed first followed by mine.
I really don’t want to disrespect either party here and personally, I do see both sides. But I think that by putting my parent’s first: it’s saying “we both paid and no one knows who paid more” and by putting his parent’s first it’s saying “We paid more and they paid less” We’re both just trying to look out for our parent’s best interest and it’s really put us at a standstill. Anyone else ever been in this situation? Opinions on this please!