Post # 1
When my parents married, my mom chose not to take my dad’s last name. They met in medical school, so both are MDs, but my mom does not practice and doesn’t identify herself as a physician.
How do I word my wedding invitations? I thought it would have to be:
Dr. George Smith and Dr. Sally Walters request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Son of Mr. and Mrs. Jack Russell
I think my mom wants to simplify the situation and just have it be:
Together with their parents,
Request the honor of your presence….
They don’t seem to really care about the etiquette of who pays for what gets listed where, etc, etc. Opinions?
Post # 4
If they don’t care about the etiquette and prefer it the second way that’s more simple, I would do that. I don’t think all the etiquette crap is really necessary personally.
Post # 5
We listed all of the names because it was the only place where our last names were anywhere on the invite, and there are a good amount of parents’ friends invited. I like “together with their parents” if you don’t have to list them out.
If you are going to list them out, do your parents use Dr. socially, as opposed to professionally? Dr. really sticks out and is a bit distracting, so you could use Mr. and Mrs. instead if they are comfortable with it. And you could also do Mr. & Mrs. George Smith, but I know at least my mom doesn’t like when she’s lumped in under my dad’s name like that.
Post # 6
If your parents don’t have a preference, then I would go with which option YOU like better and are more comfortable with. Personally, I like a more formal sounding invitation… especailly if you are having a formal wedding.
I am having a similar issue with my fiance’s parents names. They are divorced so when we write “son of” I am not sure if I list his mother’s name first or father’s name first or if it even matters…..
Post # 7
After talking to them tonight, they think this might be a viable option, even though it’s less formal:
George Smith and Sally Walters request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Son of Jack and Susan Russell
This way everyone gets named, and we don’t have to deal with the “doctor issue.” I think I’ll have to sleep on it tonight. First world problems, right?
Post # 8
@cmbr: I personally prefer the “together with their parents” wording. If no one is offended that they will not be named on the invitation, that wording sounds a little more formal than the “George Smith and Sally Walters” option.
Don’t feel bad … I’ve been stressing out about addressing envelopes for our Save the Dates. Those are obviously not as formal as the invitations, and I seriously spent 2 hours debating whether I should center everything or align everything on the left side. I felt like a crazy person, but I think this is just what happens when you want to make sure every detail is perfect!
Post # 9
I’d go with the second option if you aren’t super picky about etiquette. In general it’s seen as acceptable anyways. You’ll figure out what’s right for you!