Post # 1
I know this question has been asked before, but I haven’t seen it in a poll form and frankly, it’s much easier to read that way 🙂
Fiance and I are paying for the majority of our May wedding ourselves. So far we have received $200 towards it from my family. My parent’s can’t really help (though the $200 was from them) and FI’s parent’s haven’t offered to help at all. Also, FWIW, my father passed away when I was 3 and my mom remarried a sweet man who legally adopted me when I was 12, so to say something like ‘Bride, daughter of Mom and Pop’ doesn’t really work in this situation.)
How the heck should the wording read? …
Post # 3
Oh, PS – thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 4
I put ‘Together with their families’ as I thought this was a nice way to pay respect to our parents and siblings that may have not only offered financial support, but also emotional support. (money isn’t everything!) Athough ettiquette may say differently I dislike naming every single person involved, it gets wordy and most of the time unnecissary.
Post # 5
I voted other. I think you should ask both sets of parents first to see if they have a strong opinion about it and then decide.
Post # 6
Technically you and Fiance are hosting. Did you want to list your parents or do you feel like you have to?
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Since Pop adopted you, I would consider you to be his daughter. There are ways to list deceased parents, if you want your biological father mentioned (google Emily Post)
Do you want your family acknowledged on the invites? If so, go ahead and do it, even if they’re not financially participating. Or go with the “together with their families.”
Post # 8
@GroovyHippieChick: i honestly am not sure. In a way I feel like I have to, but I also feel like my birth dad’s side of the family may feel… sad/put off by not seeing my real dad’s name on the invite. When my new dad adopted me, my grandma had a big melt down and introduces me as her granddaughter of her son who passed away. I know it sounds silly but I’m afraid my grandma will feel really really hurt if I have names on the invite but not my real dad’s name…
Post # 9
@RMBsbride: you’re not going to be able to please everyone. Do what you think is best.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t list anyone else.
Post # 11
Because they won’t be hosting I personally wouldn’t put anything about Such and Such requests the honour or your presence at the marriage of their children.I might put something along the lines of:
Because you have shared in our lives by your friendship and and love, we:
(Daughter of Mom and Adoptive father and the Late birth father-Omit if you don’t want them listed)
(Son of Mom and Dad in law – Omit if you don’t want them listed)
Request the honor of your presence at their marriage.
Post # 12
If you are paying for most of it, “together with your families” is best.
If you put parents names, it implies their contibution..