Post # 1
I’m creating my own invitations and have come to a bit of a stopping point. We want a small ceremony, I have a LARGE family. To compromise, we’re inviting only our immediate family and closest friends to our ceremony and then a couple days later we’re holding a wedding celebration picnic.
I don’t want to seem gift grabby, so I am trying to figure out the proper way to indicate on the invites that their presence at our wedding picnic is gift enough.
Does that violate some etiquette?
I just want to be clear to those that are invited that we are wanting to celebrate our marriage with them and are not looking for more gifts.
Make sense? Or am I headed down some sort of slippery slope?
Post # 3
I’ve been told that writing “no gifts” is rude because it implies that people were going to bring gifts. (well, of course they were, duh.) That reasoning makes no sense to me.
If I saw “no gifts,” then I wouldn’t bring a gift. But many people would. But, for those people, there isn’t really anything you can do to prevent them from bringing a gift…
I dunno…maybe instead of “no gifts,” you could be a little more vague and say something like, “your presence is all we hope for.”
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
‘Your presence is the only present desired’ at the bottom of the invite
Post # 5
“Your presence is present enough”
Also it won’t be seen as a gift grab. If some one wants to give you a gift then they will. If they don’t want to they won’t. Just tell your parents if people ask what to get you to tell them that they do not need to bring a gift. But be prepared that some people will want to get you something so to be safe and not get 1 million cassrole dishes, I would register some where but don’t mail that information out.
Another idea for the people who want to bring you something, suggest making a donation to your favorite charity.
Post # 6
Thank you everyone!
I wasn’t exactly sure to handle this and now I know it’s considered to rude by some to ask for no gifts.
@PennyLaine- the charity donation is a great idea!