(Closed) invitation wording- walking on eggshells here!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Meh… tell him to stuff it. JK… We left our crazy dads off the invitations. In all actually, it became such a mess with parents and step parents that we opted to leave all parents out. We paid for the whole thing so it was just us on the invitation. In the end, my dad didn’t even show… neither did my huddy’s.

Post # 4
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are doing
“Together with Their Families, Jessica…… and Rick….. invite you to celebrate……..” 

Post # 5
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsKitty:  +1 for us

“Together with their families” worked for our crazy situation. The “families” didn’t get input in this 🙂

Post # 6
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsKitty:  Same here, with the divorces and step parents etc it was easier. Plus, we’re adults, no one is inviting anyone to watch us get married but the people getting married IMO, their family invitations are secondary.

Who is paying for all this? 

Post # 7
13295 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would just do “together with their families” like PP suggested in this case.  Too much of a headache to do anything else!

Are you set on using the word “give” in reference to you? (“was thinking, Mr & Mrs ____ give their daughter to ________ the son of Mr. & Mrs. _______. “)  I personally find that to be a little strange – like you are property…  but that’s just my two cents on that one.

Post # 8
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I like the idea PP said to say “families”.  But from they way you described things I get the nagging feeling that some people would not be happy if their full names did not appear.  If it’s already a tense situation I would run that past everyone before making that decision 😛

Post # 9
46680 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Stop spending so much time and energy in pleasing others.

“Together with our parents” solves all the issues.

or you could put

bride’s name

daughter of

_____________and _____

and Groom’s name

son of

______ and _______FSTD and Future Mother-In-Law


____________ bio dad

invite you to join them_________


Post # 10
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I agree with @julies1949:, but want to add that you should not put “and” between the lines for FI’s parents and bio dad because “and” means married. You should just have “son of Mr. and Mrs. ___” on one line and right below it “Mr. ____.”

One question, though, who is hosting? If your parents are paying for a large share of the event, you should have:

  • Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents
  • request the pleasure of your company
  • at the marriage of their daughter
  • Bride
  • to
  • Groom
  • son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s Parens
  • Mr. BioDad

  • Date
  • Time
  • Place


Post # 11
233 posts
Helper bee

@futurepilotswife_:  I’m with @mrsSonthebeach on this one. Who is hosting definitely plays a role. We know that my SO’s parents probably won’t be contributing to the wedding, but I wanted to include everyone’s names on our invitations. What we’ve come up with so far is very similar to what mrsS posted:

Mr. MyDad OurLastName and Ms. MyMom HerLastName

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Me Middle OurLastName

to Him Middle HisLastName

Son of  Mr. HisDad HisLastName and Mrs. HisMom HerNewName

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