(Closed) Invitation wording when one parent is a doctor

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which wording is correct or looks best?
    Doctor Charles and Cynthia Smith : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Doctor Charles and Mrs. Cynthia Smith : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Dr. Charles and Mrs. Cynthia Smith : (10 votes)
    19 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Dr. and Mrs. Charles Smith : (22 votes)
    41 %
    Doctor and Mrs. Charles Smith : (7 votes)
    13 %
    Doctor and Mrs. Charles and Cynthia Smith : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    13017 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would do Doctor Charles and Mrs. Cynthia Smith – mostly because I think your mom needs a title because your dad has one, and I think you need to spell the word “Doctor” out because it’s the start of a sentence.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I vote “Dr. & Mrs. Charles and Cynthia Smith”. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Doctor and Mrs. Charles Smith

    Post # 6
    Member
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Traditionally, you would only include the given name of the man, so it would be “Dr. and Mrs. Charles Smith.”

    If you want to include your mother’s given name, then you should list each person individually–you wouldn’t bunch up the titles and then the first names–so it would be “Dr. Charles Smith and Mrs. Cynthia Smith.” The “and” and the sharing of a line indicates that they are married, but some people unfamiliar with etiquette may think it looks like that means they are divorced.

    Personally, I’d go with “Dr. and Mrs. Charles Smith.”

    Post # 8
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    The traditional way would be Doctor and Mrs. Charles Smith. 

    If your mom wants her name on there as well, then I guess I’d go with Doctor Charles Smith and Mrs. Cynthia Smith, although that seems really long.

    Post # 11
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    7735 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Even though it’s traditional to leave the wife’s first name out, I think that tradition is well and truly past its use by date. I think you need to give them equal billing, so I voted “Dr. Charles and Mrs. Cynthia Smith”. Just as if your father wasn’t a doctor, I’d put “Dr. Charles and Mrs. Cynthia Smith”. (ETA: “Dr and Mrs Charles and Cynthia Smith” would be ok too).

    In general, find a template you like, and replace “Mr.” with “Dr.” 

    Post # 12
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    If they’re your parents, why not ask them? I’m sure they’ve had mail addressed to the two of them in the past!

    Having said that, I agree with people who say you should include both first names so, out of the above options, I would probably prefer “Dr. Charles and Mrs Cynthia Smith.” Or you could drop the honorifics altogether and just call them “Charles and Cynthia Smith.”

    Post # 13
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    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    @LadyElva:  +1 or at least ask your SO. I personally think only saying the mans name is outdated but they are from a different generation so better safe than sorry

    Post # 14
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    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Possibly I’m crazy but isn’t on formal invites there a different way to express academic doctors. (PHD) and medical doctor? Either way I vote both first names 

    Post # 15
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    7735 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @chasesgirl:  My dad’s a PhD and we used “Dr”. But we didn’t go super formal.

    Post # 16
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    1917 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @chasesgirl:  Formal etiquette only refers to medical doctors as Dr.  Ph.Ds use Mr./Mrs./Ms. titles. 

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