(Closed) Invitation wording with divorced parents, help please!

posted 4 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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Helper bee

My parents are divorced and are paying for the wedding together. They have the same last name still.  I listed it as: “Mr. Firstname Doe and Ms. Firstname Doe Request the Honor…” I don’t see why you can’t add your step-mother, like “Mr. and Mrs. Firstname Doe and Ms. Firstname Doe…” (if your mom has the name last name). Whoever is hosting (paying) should be listed. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by  sugarcreampie.
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Off the top of my head, could you possibly say something like “The Smith Family”? Or, like PP said, Mr. and Ms. Smith. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Mr. and Mrs. Harold Jones

and

Mrs. Mary Jones (or Ms.)

request the honor of your presence…

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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mauibee : Your mother may not like it, but she can’t go on denying your father’s remarriage forever. Especially since – assuming the timeline you give is correct – your father did not leave her for his new wife. If your father’s wife is contributing, I think she should be listed. And it sounds like this at least effectively the case, assuming your father and his wife have shared finances.

But since your mother is paying 1/2 (and your father and his wife effectively each paying 1/4), she should be listed first. I’d do something like:

“Ms. Anne Smith, and Mr. and Mrs. John and Rachel Smith, cordially invite…”

Post # 6
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Newbee

How about something simple?  “Together, with their families”

Post # 7
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Busy bee

My parents are divorced and my father has remarried – I used “Together with their parents.”  Together with their families could work in your case since your step mother is family.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Just re-read, together with their families won’t work for you.  

There’s no option that’s going to please all parties involved, so you’ll have to make an executive decision.  Some feelings will be hurt, but hopefully people will get over it. Personally, I would prioritize my mother’s feelings over my father and step mothers.  This is what works for me and my life though.

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