(Closed) Invitation/guest list rant!

posted 6 years ago in Guests
Post # 17
Hostess
4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

DoubleA903: That’s even more crappy! I’ve attended many of my cousins’ weddings without my Fiance (he’s been invited to the ones that occurred after we got engaged, but not before that even though we’ve dated for 8+ years) and it has never effected how much I gifted the couple. I’m sorry they’re trying to bribe you with a better gift, that’s ridiculous!

Post # 18
Member
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

Stick to your guns!! It is your day, and your budget to stick to!

We haven’t sent out invitations yet, but will likely be in the same boat. I don’t plan on inviting many of my cousins (why should I, as I haven’t seen most in 20+years), but it will likely cause a lot of family drama.

Just be strong!

Post # 20
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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DoubleA903:  My dad was pissed at me for not allowing my aunt’s random childhood friend to attend. This is an aunt who never speaks to me, no birthday cards, no phone calls, etc. and she thought it would be more convenient for the random friend to attend my wedding than to attend my aunt’s daughter’s wedding to see her. People are CRAZY. Just stand your ground, and it’ll blow over eventually.

Post # 22
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2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Be careful with promising spots of those who decline. Some people may automatically assume that means an invite… and you might not get enough declines. I invited 8 people over my venues cap (only STDs out so far) and 6 people who I had assumed would not come due to distance have already bought plane tickets. Just because most people get declines for their wedding, doesn’t mean you will and it could cause a bigger problem promising those spots. I would just flat out say no for now, and then if you have the room, then you can decide who gets them.

Post # 24
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315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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DoubleA903:  I don’t really have anything to contribute, but I’m dealing with the same thing right now. We over-sent save the dates (which I REALLY didn’t want to do, but Fiance insisted) as well, though a few have already told us they can’t make it.

Except now my dad and step-mom told me they plan to bring my step-sister’s boyfriend (who we didn’t plan for as they’ve been off and on for years) and my grandmother is asking me now if one of my cousins can bring her boyfriend (who she just started dating in November — and this cousin has a history of short-term relationships).

Post # 27
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368 posts
Helper bee

He actually used the word “demand?”  Wow!  At that, I’d be sure that any spaces that open up are used for your friends (and FI’s, of course).  Tell him that the family invitations have all been accounted for and there will be NO.MORE.ADDED.

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