(Closed) Invitation/RSVP help!!!

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
1227 posts
Bumble bee

$75 is going to break your budget? It’s a little scary that you plan to host 150 people but that cost is waht you’re trying to cut. 

Personally, I think the RSVP card is necessary. I think giving people other options in addition to the card is fine, but most people I know would want to respond via mail. 

Post # 3
2163 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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myardley :  You can look into post card RSVP cards, the postage is $0.34 per post card in the US by USPS.

Also, how is your invitation set up? If you’re prepared to send them with all but the postage, will it look funny to take the RSVP card out? How much would buying new RSVP cards with a phone number or website cost? Something to consider.

Post # 4
6573 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

SKrimping on Postage stamps on the RSVP cards is the worst way to save money. You will create more that $75 (half of your postage total, assuming that the return postage is  half the cost) worth of extra work and drama for yourselves by not providing postage and you’ll create a big inconvenience for your guests who prefer to RSVP by mail, because now they have to go find a stamp. I’m with your mom on this.

Post # 5
2979 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

$75 is going to be the cheapest part of your wedding. I’m all for online RSVPs, but providing an unstamped invite is weird, and forces your guest to spend that $. Not the place to skimp IMO.

Post # 6
1 posts
  • Wedding: May 2017

The Knot offers free wedding websites.  We just made sure to put the website on our Save-the-Date and invitations.

The website option makes things really easy and is free–I wouldn’t bother with a guest pin either unless u think that a lot of unvited guests are going to try and RSVP. I am able to keep a digital record of who RSVP’ed. Plus, the website is a great way to keep your guests informed about times, locations/directions, attire, lodging, etc. 

Post # 9
8 posts
  • Wedding: November 2017

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farmfreshjoy :  Until you give them the option to RSVP online – most will do that and you’ve just spent $75 on postage that will get thrown out.

PERSONALLY, we are doing RSVP’s on our wedding website. My mother is pretty computer illiterate and even she thought that was the best thing ever. At least 95% of your guest list has a phone or computer and will access to that website to RSVP. For those that don’t (my older relatives – which really isn’t many) I will include a phone number that people can call to RSVP as well. On top of that – all it requires is knowing the name of the person that’s RSVPing – another relative could just as easily do it for an elderly relative.

Also – I don’t know a single person that would rather fill out an RSVP and then go drop it off at the mail box as opposed to going on their phone, or tablet (that is likely within arms reach) and taking 2 seconds to RSVP.

What I really like about this method, is that once they RSVP (it wont allow more guests than YOU’VE allowed for), these sites usually have a tool for a seating chart – where you can easily drag and drop into a seating chat.

I think you should save anywhere you have the option – I did my own invitations and saved myself a couple hundred. I also saved myself a couple hundred on postage and I don’t think I’m sacrificing anything at all. Everyone keeps telling me – -“just remember – they’re going to get thrown out anyways”.

I would rather spend the money on the food, or the DJ or the booze.


Edit: I retract most of my statement. If your RSVP cards are done, you’re already committed – anything else would be out of place. 

Post # 10
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I gotta ask: Are none of your 150 guests couples? We invited about 75 people but only sent 40 invitations since most were part of a couple. You might not need to spend as much on postage as you’re currently calculating.

We were on a tight budget but spent the extra cash on postage for the RSVP cards since we wanted to make it as easy as possible for people to reply. Sure, some younger guests would probably prefer to RSVP via a website, but I know the older folks on our guest list wouldn’t have liked that. Not to mention the side eye we would have gotten from the more traditional members of the family. You know your crowd better than we do and regardless of what method you use I’m sure you’ll have to chase down replies after the deadline, but if you can afford it I’d stick with tradition on this one.

Post # 11
13778 posts
Honey Beekeeper

If your mother is objecting on the grounds that a reply envelope with postage is required and most proper, that’s just not true. The responsibility to reply is entirely the guest’s.  Most correctly one should make the effort to reply in kind, for example by mail to a formal invitation, even without the crutch of a self stamped pre-addressed reply card.  Traditionally these were even considered insulting for the implication you might otherwise be too rude or lazy to reply. 

They are obviously common now and IMO a simple convenience for guests. So I think the idea that a written reply to a traditional invitation is most correct may be where your mother is coming from. 

On the guest side replies by phone or email are still more appropriate for more casual invitations, i.e. verbal, phone or email. On your end any reply at all counts. 

Post # 13
527 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

To cut down costs, I am actually going to make my own invites in Photoshop and just print them out on cardstock. Including postage, paper and envelopes, I think I can get all my invites, STD and RVPs for about $55 buckaroos. I am with you, any way to save money!!!! Except I only need about 30 invitations per (60 people total).

Post # 15
527 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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myardley :  After thought. I know this sounds messed up, but you could only stamp the RSVP cards of the people who are not technology savvy, who you know in fact would prefer snail mail over text, email, website…just something to think about.

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