(Closed) invitations ???

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We wrote “Adult reception to follow” at the bottom of our invites 🙂 Also, be sure to address  your invites to Mr & Mrs ____ not The ____ Family. On our RSVPs we also wrote “We have reserved __ seats in your honour”, so it was very clear how many people in each family were actually invited.


Post # 4
2227 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I don’t think you should ever explicitly exclude children in a wedding invitation. Simply word it so that it’s adressed to the adults i.e. “Mr & Mrs Smith” rather than “the Smith Family”. If people RSVP for more than were invited, explain to them that it simply is not a child friendly venue. Keep in mind there are a ton of bridges that have been burned by banning kids from receptions… Make sure this is really what you want before you open that can of worms.

Post # 5
3265 posts
Sugar bee

You don’t ask anyone not to bring anyone.  You instead focus on who is invited to your event.

Invite each guest by name, follow up with any extras added on to your wedding.  You can can also spread this via word of mouth when you are chatting with your guests.

If anyone does extra RSVP then you just have to call them up and say one or two lines and then they can decide if thye are going to be able to come.

McRuderson: Oh hello bride.  This is Suzy McRuderson calling, John and Bobby and I are really looking forward to your wedding?

You: Oh sorry, McRuderson but there seems to have been a misunderstanding, only John and yourself are invited.  We aren’t able to accomodate children.  I hope you can still make it.


Post # 6
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am not having children at mine because of expenses because we do not get any extra money off for children and my family has a load of them! I think it’s silly to not put “adult ceremony” or something of the sort on the invitation. That seems easier than calling someone who “misunderstood” to tell them that sorry, you put your 2 kids on the card and uhm, actually they aren’t invited.


Post # 7
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In the return RSVP card, I’m going to only incorporate the names of the invited guests. For ex: for couple John and Jane Smith,

Jane Smith attending____yes____no

John Smith attending____yes____no

For single guest plus one invite: jack Jackson attending____yes____no

Plus one guest (include name)__________ attending____yes____no

Post # 9
13014 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your invitations should be addresses to who is invited, not excluding anyone.


Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
123 Main Street
City, State ZIP


The Smith Family
123 Main Street
City, State ZIP

If it becomes an issue of a single parent with kids, you’d just address the inner envelope to Mr. John Smith and Guest vs. still doing the Smith Family. 

We are also not having children at the wedding, but I wouldn’t write that on the invitation. 

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