- Miss Ireland
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I’m getting married next May, and I’m going back and forth with myself on the invitation suite. It was one of the first things we started on, because he was excited about it and felt like helping (and he’s normally not interested in that stuff so I jumped on that train before it passed!). I was initially thinking of sending out an STD… but then, thanks to the Bee, I realized that part of the point of sending out an STD for a destination wedding would be to let the guests know not just the date, but also about airfare and rooms, etc. etc. BUT, we had already planned on putting that information in the invitation. Also, any money we can save is really, really helpful, so nixing the STD would be great.
I’ve already got my paper products, and most of the items printed (just need to finish designing one piece and finish putting them all together), so I don’t know if I really want to completely change half the design (the actual invite wouldn’t change, just all the inserts). Plus, we’ve mentioned to some of our guests that we were thinking of sending out the invites, and no one mentioned it would be strange to them — after all, there’s a lot of planning that would go into it for our guests (also, I don’t think they’re familiar with the idea of wedding STDs).
So here’s my thought, and I’m wondering what others feel. First off, we’re having a very small wedding. 50 invites going out, and most of those are courtesy invites that we’re sending because the person is family, but we know they won’t come because it’s too much money. So it’s not like mom’s coworkers are getting them or anything like that, all are people in our close circle who know us (personally, I think that makes a difference, you may not agree!). So I thought I would send the invites out 8-9 months early as originally planned, with an RSVP date two months before the wedding (because that date is one that already makes people think of us due to some crazy antics we pull every year, and it’s appropriate for our wedding destination). So basically they’d have six months to see if they can save their pennies and come, and then let us know.
However, I know that sending the info out so early may cause people to forget by the time the RSVP date rolls around, so I thought about two months before the RSVP date I could send out something – like a mini newsletter, for example – that gives some updates on progress (in case anything has changed, or just to get them excited), as well as a “Don’t forget to RSVP!” reminder.
Thanks girls, you’re help is appreciated!