Invitations delayed

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, the VIPs likely already know the date anyway. Most people probably aren’t counting the weeks until your wedding, so I doubt anyone will even know they’re “late.” They would however realize they’re late if you sent out a notice that they’re late. If anyone comes to you with questions about it, tell them then and direct them to your website. Otherwise just send them out as soon as you get them.

If it makes you feel any better my wedding is May 18th and I haven’t even ordered my invites yet 😂

Post # 3
690 posts
Busy bee

I really wouldn’t worry about it Bee. Everyone knows the date already, and probably already know most of the details!

no one else cares about your invitations as much as you..! People were telling me not even to bother sending them one because they knew the deets already! (But I did).

6 weeks is fine, to be honest that’s what I thought it wa s anyway!! No one will bat an eye..

DEFINITELY no need to send an apology (what?!) that’s just whooly unnecessary Bee.. Not many people are as stickler for etiquette as you..

Post # 4
5468 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I seriously don’t think anyone will think that. I really wouldn’t send an apology letter, that is so dramatic. Guests have already received a save the date so they have been aware the event was coming up, it’s not as though this is the first time they are hearing about your wedding. 

Post # 5
9210 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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erin89leigh :  I think you need to be a bit more assertive with the vendor to be honest. You had an agreement and they are not keeping up their end of the agreement. It is not up to you to time manage your invitation vendor so stop thinking that.

Do you have the original timeline in writing?

Post # 8
7627 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Emily Post says 6-10 weeks in the stuff I read when we got married. She focused more on giving people at least 4 weeks to RSVP. Either way, since you sent out a save the date, people should have already put the date aside.

I also agree that you should be pushing back on the vendor. It is not on YOU to make sure someone else that you hired sticks to their timeline, that’s not how it works in the business world. 

ETA: I see from your update that it’s a personal relationship? Does she have a business mKing invites? If she does, I don’t think it matters if you have a personal relationship to be honest. Have you asked her about the possibility of getting them to you quicker? Can the printer do a rush order?

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