Post # 1
Well as my fiance are fast approaching our wedding (4 months 13 days) we have still not ordered our invitations. We have however selected what we want and have started the design process but I have gotten to a point where I am really stuck. We are not going to register at stores as I have been living in my own house for 12 yrs now and we don’t really need anything so we decided to register our honeymoon, I think. I am not sure if I need to add that on my invitation or how I should word the fact that I don’t want gifts and I would prefer money. Is that rude? I am still also debating whether or not I want to go through with the honeymoon registry. I dont know what to do! Please help me!
Post # 3
Yes, it’s rude to ask for cash on your invite. Just don’t put anything on your invite and you’ll probably end up getting cash anyway.
Post # 3
if i were not registering, then i would simply leave that out of the invitation completely. i wouldn’t say that we would prefer cash, but i would leave guests to assume that we aren’t registered. if i were a guest, i would probably just give cash anyways. be prepared to recieve 3 toasters though 🙂
Post # 4
There are about 8 million threads debating this very issue. Search for it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Yes it would be rude- do not mention gifts or money on your invitations.
Post # 6
@rebwana: Yes it would be rude- do not mention gifts or money on your invitations.
Post # 7
I agree with all other posters above- do not ask for cash on invite! People will realize you are not registered and probably give money anyway. if you do decide to do the honeymoon registry, you can let guests know by including a little card that states something like: in lieu of a traditional registry we have set up a honeymoon registry… and include website. Honeyfund is a great website for that!
Post # 8
Don’t mention anything about gifts or money on your invite. Period. People will either give you a gift or give you money – but a registry, lack thereof, or expressing a preference really won’t change what people want to do, but could potentially rub people the wrong way. Registry info can be put on your wedding website.
Post # 9
It is generally frowned upon to put any registry information on invitations…it appears to be “gift grabby” (I hate that term but it fits). Some people think it is ok to put registry info on a shower invitation but I personally am not a big believer in that either.
Just my 2 cents aout a honeymoon registry…these are not always readily accepted especially by the older generations. Some younger brides take issue with the fact that these honeymoon registry companies take a percentage (I’ve heard as high at 10%) of the money you guests give you. Plus, you don’t actually get the excursions or whatnot. The company simply sends you a check for the amount your guests gave minus their cut. If you don’t register anywhere, most people get the hint that you would prefer cash.
One last piece of advice, if you do decide to do a honeymoon registry, it may be slightly awkward to have a bridal shower thrown for you, since a huge part of the shower is watching the bride open her gifts. Pretty hard to open money gifts. Tell your family blabber mouth 🙂 that you are saving up for your honeymoon and people will get the hint about you preferring money. But be prepared for some strange, off the wall gifts from people who just have to get you an actual gift.