(Closed) Invitations – leaving some family out?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

How extended?  We invited all first cousins, aunt and uncles.  But then both my husband and I only invited select members of our more distant family (great aunts, 2nd cousins) based on whether we saw them often or had a close relationship.  If it really is extended family I think its totally fine to only invite some of them.

Post # 4
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264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we haven’t really started to make our guest list yet but both us decided that those who will be invited are those “who care enough to send christmas cards every year”! 

basically, we are only inviting close family and friends. no other extended family and we aren’t afraid of any potential problems. you’re right. it’s your wedding, invite who you want! 

Post # 6
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341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I invited all first cousins, and then 2nd cousins that I see on a regular basis, one’s that I havent seen since childhood/in a while didn’t make the list. Maybe have them on a “B-List” ?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We invited aunts and uncles.. but when it came to cousins we were selective. I.e inviting all from my mothers side because its smaller, and none from my fathers side.. because we dont really know them that well and my fathers side will just think that the cousins invited are friends of ours and not actually cousins AND any of my cousins from my fathers side, will just think its only aunt and uncles invited and wont be offended.

Tricky management involved and I dont need to worry about FHs family, because he doesnt talk to many anyway and his mum and dad havent been involved in wedding talk anyway and their not contributing to the wedding, so they get no say!

I think you should move people you dont really want to a B list. I dont think they will be offended. People understand these days I think.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have a huge family so I only invited two of my aunts and their family b/c I am closest to them….the other 14 couples did not get an invite.  I’ll send them a wedding pic/announcement later.

Fiance is close to his extended family and our wedding will be near his family (far from mine, conveniently) so we’re inviting his 3 aunts/uncle couples but no cousins (we won’t fit in the venue).

Post # 9
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Worker bee

I think if you are closer to some of your family and not others then you should invite the ones you want.  If you aren’t really close with any of them, I would exclude the whole group. 

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