(Closed) Invitations lost in Mail-Land

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When is your RSVP date?  Do you have enough time between that date and your due date for the venue to call everyone and get RSVPs?  Did you send save the dates so people are expecting an invitation and would have already saved the date?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think it’s been long enough that you can start sending people messages asking them to confirm that they received their invitations – not that you’re expecting an RSVP yet but just to confirm that they arrived safely.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

This happened to us! I’m an idiot and put our return address on the back of the envelope, and the mail sorting machines kept reading it as the recipient’s address. So we got a bunch back to us, and many just got lost along the way.

I started checking in with people a few weeks after we sent out the invitations, and we had our moms check in with some people, too. Plus our mailman had noticed the issue, and was attempting to resend the invitations for us free of charge, unbeknownst to us. So some invitations that we got back had gone through the sorting machines multiple times and were in such bad shape. I was exhausted and so over the invitations at that point, so we made a Paperless Post invitation that explained our invitation debacle on the bottom. So rather than resend any, we started sending out the evite to anyone who reported not getting a paper invite. 

Our save the dates went much more smoothly for whatever reason (I also sent the invitations in the middle of a nationwide blizzard, ah well). I think that helped pull it off better, and seemed less like we had forgotton about certain guests.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

OMG NOOOOOO im do sorry that happened. I think you gotta contact all your guests and get a RSVP .

Im sending out our invites today and now Im freaking out!!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I just sent out the last of mine during my lunch break!  I’m really hoping none go missing, I have a few spare and have handed as many as I could out in person.  No one will mind a FB or text message asking if they’re gotten theirs yet just so you have some peace of mind.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

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flip_flop :  Geez, that really sucks! And the Post Office wonders why it’s going under.

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Hello,

Im new here. Just wanted to say yes, this happens. I have had at least  3 out of 50 that never got delivered.  Came out in regular conversation. It is very frustrating. That being said i agree with pp that my save the dates went way more smoothy as well.  Im giving it till the 10th or so and then il start calling people who have not rsvp’ed yet. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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kygirl242 :  Yeah it was chaos! I was especially sad because I DIYed the invitations, and so many got basically destroyed in the mail 🙁

Speaking of USPS being ridiculous, a couple of our RSVPs also never made it back to us. One of them, I found outside on the sidewalk near our apartment. Doesn’t inspire much confidence!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’ve heard from a couple of people that they didn’t get their STD and it’s been a few weeks so I’m assuming it’s lost. Also had one returned to us because somebody forgot to include their apartment number in the address 😒

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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weddingbee17 :  it took on average 3-4 weeks people to get our save the dates. Some took 2 MONTHS! USPS is a mess. I’ve gotten some advice from people who mail a lot for our invitations, but mostly we’ve decided to hand deliver as many as possible. We’ll hand deliver family in April when I go to the East coast for someone else’s wedding shower. My parents will deliver everyone who lives in my home state and Fiance and I will deliver his family and our friends who live in our current state. Outside of that we will mail, but we’re trying to do as few as possible. We’re getting married in a library and our invitations are handmade 7 page books. I’m not about to let 120 of those get lost in the mail, like our STDs did. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

NEWMAN!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

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anthonyswife :  that made me laugh tongue-out

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Nothing lost, thankfully. We did send invites to relatives of mine who live literally two house number apart, i.e. Unicorn Road 12 & 14, and the two addresses received their invitations with 12 days difference(!). I got replacement invites ready the morning I heard they had finally arrived.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Eden Project, Cornwall, United Kingdom

Is it possible for you to scan and send your guests the electronic copy of your wedding invitations? That’s what I’m planning to do to save money and paper.

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