(Closed) Invitations – not mentioning parents by name?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Go for it! I’m not planning to use parents names either. As long as your parents aren’t paying for it 100%, I don’t think it’s necessary.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We aren’t including our parents’ names either as we are paying for the whole wedding. They are helping out but not paying for it.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m using ‘Together with their families’ as well 🙂 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

We are using together, with their parents, Your presence is requested to witness as BrideGroom enter into the union of marraige.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We used, “Together with their parents, A & B request the pleasure of your company at their wedding celebration”

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We’re also about to order our invitations and aren’t mentioning our parents by name either. We’re considering saying something like “Together with their families, bride and groom invite you to share in the joy of their wedding day . . .”

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m using together with their parents because they only helped out a little as we’re paying for 90% of the wedding and it’s difficult because my parents are divorced and I’d be listing out multiple names!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@NYCowgirl:  this is the exact wording on my invitations. Fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves anyway (well 90% and mom 10%) so there shouldn’t be a host other than us. My mom was the one who picked out the invitations and paid for them. I don’t think we had a choice on the wording of the invitations. It really didn’t matter to us. I like the together with their families anyway. Helps cut down the confusion/conflict with separated or divorced parents.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think (and I could very well be wrong) that the tradition of naming your parents on an invitation goes back to when 90% of the guests were your parents’ choices and not yours.  When my mom got married, she said it was customary for all of the MOB’s friends to come, but the bride maybe only had a couple of friends attend.

In summary, mentioning your parents by name is probably a tradition that is slowly on its way out.  No shame in not naming your parents specifically!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We also said “together with their families…”

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We are saying “together with their families” too. We are paying for our wedding and separation/divorced/remarried parents caused too much confusion. 

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